I was recently fired from a job, and am struggling to understand why. The reasons given were unclear and contradictory, and management were defensive when I asked for detail - this was also my experience of management during the job.
I'm concerned that my frustration at this is preventing me from clearly seeing how I contributed to the situation (or not). So I'd like to ask some of my former colleagues for feedback on how they thought I performed and behaved, to try to learn and something from this experience.
Several of them reached out to me privately with kind words when I was fired, and I expect that they would give me useful feedback if I asked. Is this a reasonable thing to do? Am I risking my relationships by making them uncomfortable? How could I mitigate these risks?
Also, I also don't want to risk references or relationships with my former managers, although I am not considering asking them for feedback. While my relationships with them were difficult, there was some warmth there, and in the termination they indicated they'd help me look for other jobs. So I'd like to ensure that if I do talk to former colleagues, it doesn't jeopardise these relationships.