I'm a young graduate fresh out of university just under a year ago. I went to an international school in my youth and did not establish many friendships during university due to the girlfriend in freshman year. I thought that starting my professional life would offer me the chance to form more friendships with more new people.
I did find a group of people who I thought are quite 'tight' with; meaning we always have a daily group chat on Messenger, always have lunch together and always go to the same workplace social events together. But that's it - we never do anything more than that outside the office. I've tried several times to organize a get-together over the weekend or some drinks on a friday evening, but everyone is always so hesistant that it feels rather awkward to push them to come (which is what we'd do in our uni years).
I thought this was just something to do with techies not being very sociable (something I definitely noticed in my computer science course), but reading this workplace question - How to deal with a colleague who wants to be a personal friend and not just a work colleague? - made me think if just the entire notion is unacceptable?