Our company uses a regular soft skill evaluation/review. It's a one-on-one meeting with the direct boss and the results are not public. It has some aspects like how goal and result oriented the employee, how does he or she work together with other colleagues, how does they handle changes or solve problems, etc. Every aspect has a few levels. Every level contains 1-5 sentences like these:
- The employee appreciates the point of view of others and is considerate of them.
- The employee considers the effects of every action, creates a priority list, and makes result-oriented decisions.
- The employee measures the results with his or her own standards.
- The employee favors new, more effective methods.
- The employee aims for concrete goals.
- The employee creates a balance between the needs and the goals of the clients and those of the company.
We have to bring their own examples to the review meeting showing how we behaved according to the sentences above.
I don't really like this meetings mostly because
- it's not too comfortable,
- it forces the reviewed employee to be in a defensive position,
- and I just don't like to toot my own horn.
Furthermore, sometimes the reviewer and the reviewed employee do not evaluate the prior activities the same way. Sometimes these discussions refresh bad old memories and leads to arguments about old projects which I think should have been discussed right after the issue not in the review meeting half year later.
Is there a better way for soft skill reviews? Should I suggest any other way of this review and should we do this kind of review at all?