I have had to work closely with a colleague on several projects. I am a very easy going, open and friendly person so when discussions got side tracked sometimes to personal life I went along with the conversations. Prior to going on maternity leave I had to travel for work with this same colleague and we had to also share a hotel room while away for a week. On our way home she mentioned that I was like a twin sister to her - this caught me off guard but I just replied that we most certainly are not. I didn't do anything more about this as I went off on maternity leave.
I am wondering how I should approach her upon returning as I will likely have to work on many projects with her upon my return to work. I get the feeling that she was offended by this comment as she didn't sign my card when my team sent me baby shower gift, she was the only one not to respond to my e-mail when I sent out a picture and a note of my new arrival.
I want to make sure that we can work together and it not be uncomfortable but I want to make it clear that she is not my best friend - we are work colleagues.
Update - thanks for all the comments howerever: I didn't want to go into too much detail as I didn't think it was necessary but I actually have a twin sister so that is the reason for my comment back to her. I certaintly didn't frown or say it rudely to her - I just matter of factly said that we are not twin sisters as I have one. In addition, she is lonely and doesn't have many close friends, especially not those who are women - in fact most people on my team - including the boss are very negative and abrupt with her (she does have a very assertive, confrontational appoach with people). She has tried on numerous accasions to get more invovled in my personal life while inviting me to get involved in hers, which I politely declined.
Her twin comment to me raised red flags and boarded on the creepy for me. I do not want to be more than just work colleagues but I want to have a friendly working relationship.
I think her not signing the card etc. Signals to me that she is hurt - I don't believe it was this actual comment itself - I think it is more about that while on pregnancy related sick leave and maternity leave I haven't been in contact with her (she assumed we were great friends, while I thought of her as a work colleague) and now I want to know how do I go back and smooth over her hurt feelings but at the same time have it be clear that I don't want to be friends?