Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Suggestions on ways to handle a cold boss?

I recently started a new job about 2 months ago and it has been somewhat of a culture shock. I came from a place where everybody was emotionally warm. Now though it seems this new place has many ...
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How to appear confident while still being modest?

I have been accomplishing quite a bit in my role and moving up the ranks quickly. I love my job and am proud of the work I do. Sometimes my boss and my boss's boss make comments about my performance ...
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Should I correct my coworkers' language mistakes?

I'm not a native English speaker, but I still notice some basic mistakes in grammar, pronunciation and wordings when my colleagues are talking to customers. But when I try to correct them, they rudely ...
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Intimidated by co worker [duplicate]

I have been at a new full time job as a Software Developer now for just over 3 months. I got this job right out of college (literally 2 weeks after I graduated). I love working here and I love my co ...
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What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one?

My coworker's father passed away. The following day, an employee from HR sent out an office-wide email with the obituary and viewing details with the coworker's permission, and started a fund for a ...
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How can I give useful feedback without going too far? [closed]

My friend has come to me for advice with their CV. I'm happy to help - and would like to - but I'm conscious that I sometimes go overboard with advice that nobody asked for, or am overly critical ...
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Socializing as a poor performer

I am relatively new to my organization. For many reasons, I am not performing very well. I am behind on my projects, and although I feel that in my few-month tenure, I have produced decent work under ...
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Is it inappropriate to recommend two colleagues for the same job?

I was recently contacted by a colleague about an available position in my field. Since the field is relatively small, I have had two other colleagues who are changing positions ask me to recommend ...
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Should I accept a colleauges request to join me during lunchtime runs? [closed]

I've recently joined a new company and I want to make the best impression with my new colleagues. About a month ago a new member of staff joined our team. Occasionally at lunchtimes I like to go ...
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Should I warn a friend about a former employer?

I have a friend who for the purposes of this question we'll refer to as Paul. Paul is a University professor who hasn't been actively involved in business outside of academia. He's shown me some ...
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The work I am doing at my new job is not what I signed up for [closed]

I recently started a new job as an Merchandiser at a small fashion supplier business. However all I have done is QC work and no merchandising since I have started which is 1 month and 1 week. I have ...
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Can my employer force me to fix employees' personal computers?

I run an IT department at a mid-size retailer with 1000 employees. Throughout my career, there have been a many instances where people have brought in their personal equipment from home (phones, PCs, ...
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How much should I help my colleague

I have a colleague who's double my age and sometimes asks questions related to development that I didn't know 6 years back. But given his age and experience, am I doing right to tell him like what ...
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Should I say to my manager that I don't trust her anymore [closed]

I'm in a small dev team as a solution developer. In this team we have a solution architect and a manager, the rest of us are solution developers. In the other room there's the boss/product owner (we ...
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What are some steps I can take to overcome social anxiety while working?

I recently started working in a midsize company as a software development intern. I really like the company and I really like the work. The trouble I have is building relationships with people in ...
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Chinese Speaking Co-workers in an English-Speaking Country | Want to Leave | How to Explain to Prospective Employers [duplicate]

There are two Chinese guys in my team. They are adamant about not speaking English. We are meant to be working on the same project, but I have no clue what's going on. Say I want to upload some code, ...
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Most kind and polite way to refuse wedding invitation

My supervisor/project coordinator is going to get married soon and she has passed me the invitation. However I don't like weddings and I don't think we are close enough to attend such social ...
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Dealing with over smart colleague [duplicate]

I work with a person who is as same position as me but is 30 years older. I saw him being fancy with other colleagues on his second day. He somehow knows less but talks more. He has been acting ...
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Should I accept a calendar invitation marking the inavailability of a colleague? [closed]

My Manager and other team mates send a meeting request for the duration of time they are unavailable (attending workshop / vacation / Business trip). It automatically gets into my calendar. Should I ...
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How should I handle an incompetent coworker?

I've read through How to deal with an incompetent colleague?, but my situation is slightly different. I am an intern1 (although close to graduation) working in Software Engineering. I work in a ...
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Not congratulating a colleague because of her BSc final project

There's an awkward situation that I'm going through today which left me with a question: is it advised to congratulate a colleague that has completed their BSc final project even if it's somehow ...
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2answers
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Suggesting changes to existing programming practices as a newcomer [duplicate]

I recently started a new job as a programmer in a small team working on a web-based app. The code base has been built up over 10-15 years, so there is a fair amount of cruft and code that could be ...
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Difficult relationship with Opinionated Senior Colleagues [duplicate]

Note: This situation originates from a student team, rather than a workplace, but I think it is quite fair to be regarded in similar fashion to a workplace/company environment. We treat our work ...
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Should a co-worker own up to take blame or should it be pointed out?

Basically, say you are on a project with a co-worker of equal rank, neither of you wholly responsible for the work, but you are more commonly associated with the project. In this situation, say your ...
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Dealing with a really nice, hardworking but not good at work colleague [duplicate]

There is this guy in my company who is very nice, always in a good mood, quite hardworking and has all the amiable qualities that you can think of but he is not really good at his job. I am inclined ...
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How to deal with colleague with annoying behaviours? [duplicate]

I sit between two coworkers, we are software enginners and we share the same table. The guy on my left spends all his day knocking on his part of the table (like it were drums), whistling, doing some ...
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Became very ill on vacation - how to tell manager?

I went on an international vacation for 2 weeks. I went from Canada to the UK. 3 days in I came down with a horrible flu. My flight home is in a couple of days but this flu is still holding strong and ...
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How can I eliminate demoralization created by a co-worker have narcissistic tendencies?

I am a senior developer in a software team. We have this co-worker in the office environment who is not a member of the team and makes arrogant comments about everyone's mistakes, characters, skills, ...
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Should I report a violation of company workplace policy if the manager already knows about it but do nothing?

A colleague in the same team spends most of his time (if not all) conducting private business activities through company’s electronic communication systems or his own cell phone during regular working ...
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How can I tell my coworker to work on the most important project instead of what he likes

I am a software engineer and I work on a team of 3. A colleague of mine is a very qualified software engineer. However, he does not focus on the most important project (as defined by our manager). ...
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How to avoid negativity from colleagues without isolating yourself?

At work I have the opportunity of working more or less in isolation: my boss is hands-off and I mainly speak with stakeholders here and there. I find this good for productivity and for meeting my ...
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How to deal with my collegue with bad smell? [duplicate]

A new employee joined us before a week and was seated beside me,but I cannot able to bear with him as he smells fishy everyday right from the start and gets worse at end of the day. Now how can I ...
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Dealing with discrimination at new work [closed]

I'm not a native of the country I work in. Although I have helpful colleagues, a few are sort of into discrimination and seem racist. The company emphasizes its efforts against discrimination and ...
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How to exclude a lunch mate? [closed]

I have a colleague who doesn't chit chat during lunch. Only talk about work. When talk about other things, at most she will smile and no comment. With her around, the entire lunch hour is quiet. How ...
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Should I tell on my colleague for not keeping to assigned work-hours and abusing work-hours as break time? [closed]

Update: Thanks for all the answers, some more useful than others. Conclusion is: I went to HR and told them my concerns about said employees behavior. Turns out I wasn't the first to complain so they ...
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Answer to an email I didn't send

I've got one coworker from my company (working in another location than mine) who sent me an email as if I had already asked him something, but I didn't send any mail to him. I don't know him at all. ...
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Efficient morning greetings [closed]

The Scenario We're an small IT firm with 10 - 15 employees split into three different offices (A,B & C): Each morning as staff members arrive, they make their way through these offices in ...
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Is it best to move on after being harassed at work? [closed]

If you read my previous posts I've been harassed and mistreated after returning from maternity leave. How can I stop my colleagues being disrespectful about my personal life choices? I submitted a ...
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As a Brit working in America, how can I get my American colleagues to stop mocking my accent/spelling?

I am not a person of colour and I do not pretend to understand the struggle of those who endure racial discrimination, prejudice and persecution based on their race or ethnic background. However, ...
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Cryptic message from colleague - am I about to be fired? [closed]

I've been working at a software company for 6 months now (first job) and am a junior coder. I've been responsible for maintaining and developing a particular system by myself for 3 months but most of ...
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Role of consultant/freelancer when co-worker/employee performs sub-standard work?

I've begun a 4-month freelance software position, as a senior engineer. The team is me, a manager and one full time dev. My question is, what should I do when the full time dev does things like; ...
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Resources for communicating & dealing with “hot buttons” as a software developer? [closed]

I'm a senior developer/consultant/freelancer, and I find that most positions entail being hired to "level up" the team. (A recent manager used this exact phrase.) But of course, a team of people isn't ...
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Extremely hot-headed project manager - how to improve communications?

[background] I have been working on a game and I handed it in for 3rd-party certification. They came back with a couple of issues which I fixed all but one. We had a question about the final issue and ...
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How to justify using a direct competitor's service

Let's say that I work for ABC Auto Insurance. Being a bit festive, I decided to ride my bike to work in observance of of Ride your Bike to Work Day, 5/15/2015. One of my coworkers pointed out that ...
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How to keep a good relationship with your colleague when managment helped you by making a decision that hurt them?

Firstly, I'd like to maintain a good relationship with every colleague. I work in a supermarket that is open from 7 - 22 everyday of the year. I have quite a lot of colleagues so when somebody isn't ...
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Should I Confront my Co-worker?

So I work at a help desk where I'm the only employee around and there is no supervisor for the majority of my shifts. My supervisor recently informed me that my co-worker (whose shift is directly ...
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Is there an ideal way to deal with a higher-level colleague who is wrong and aggressive?

I recently had an experience with a 'Principal Architect' (who has been with the company for 12 out of the 15 years its existence). He forwarded me a defect with a comment saying that it's caused by ...
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How can I stop my colleagues being disrespectful about my personal life choices?

I've been disrespected since coming back from maternity leave. I am trying to get the behavior to stop and I want to feel comfortable at work even talking to them in general without massive details ...
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Best way to address an executive who interrupts a conversation with a colleague

The situation was as follows: I was at a company event carrying a casual conversation with a colleague when I was interrupted mid-conversation by an executive. To my recollection, the executive was ...
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Reporting to a friend

I am considering a position where I would be reporting to a close friend. Originally we were colleagues at different companies but in the same field, and now we have become close. (In this situation ...