Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to deal with co-workers expressing opinions that I find offensive?

Some of my coworkers complain about their children and how horrible their lives are because of their children. I find this behavior to be very offensive and disgusting for a variety of reasons. How ...
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How to deal with incompetent lead?

Alright, so we are a two people team directly reporting to our director. I have 4-5 years of experience and my teammate has 20+ years of experience. For obvious reasons he is my lead. We both are ...
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Conflicting information regarding acceptable practice. How to determine if doing something with permission will hurt me?

I worked from home in the month of December for two weeks with my manager's permission. My manager also allowed me to work from home for the next two weeks. A month after this happened a colleague ...
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I'm working with a startup who's CTO/lead developer is essentially at a junior developer level, how to make it work? [closed]

I'm currently working with a startup on a contract developer basis, evenings and weekends. They have one other developer, who also happens to be the CTO. There is also a CEO and a CFO, who aren't ...
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Can anything be done about an atmosphere of finger pointing?

I'm on a project that I would have loved. Before I started at the company, somebody estimated the budget and timeline for the project, and they made the estimates absurdly low. The project is hugely ...
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How to manage a co-worker you dislike [closed]

I have recently been promoted to manage a small team I worked in before. My problem is, one of my coworkers. The co-worker (Jane) is a person I really do not like. We’ve had several loud clashes. ...
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How to tell boss that its often too cold with the ceiling fan running? [closed]

We live in a tropical area where room temperature is anywhere between 25-28 degree celcius. I am used to more hotter temperatures as I am from a coastal city. My boss (the owner of the startup) always ...
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How to deal with being the 'loud person'

There are already a few questions and answers from the perspective of workers who deal with loud colleagues: Loud and unprofessional employee and What can I do about a very loud coworker? As someone ...
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How to not seem lazy in the eyes of my co-workers? [duplicate]

I'm new in my workplace, and one of the very few IT guys in here (totally 3 I believe ), I'm externalized from another company to work here. My work consist in filling some very important reports that ...
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How to deal with a colleague that is focused on details outside of their responsibilities?

I'm the team lead at a small software development firm and we have one other developer that I share an office with. I am not their boss, but my responsibilities involve managing their tasks and making ...
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How to refresh respect for colleague [closed]

How would one proceed to restart a relationship of respect with a fellow colleague with the below characteristics considering the absolute requirement to work together for the foreseeable future. ...
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Conflict with a colleague: How to explain the situation when asked

As this is a common question amongst the upper tier tech companies, I thought I'd seek some advice. The question typically goes in one of two forms: "Tell me a time when you had a conflict with a ...
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New job. New co-workers all unhappy and looking to leave. Bad sign? [duplicate]

After eight years at my prior employer, I took a new position that allowed me to travel less and see my family more. It was a reduction in income, but the increase in quality of life seemed worth it. ...
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How do i deal with my colleague criticizing me all the time?

I work in a project/team in my organisation which comprises of 6 people. One of my team member has a very bad habit of criticizing me and it seems that he wants to snub me on every little thing. He ...
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Should I tell colleagues I'm leaving

I handed my notice in some time ago. My boss (director of the company) has asked me not to say anything to my team and colleagues. She says she needs to protect the business as she is worried about a ...
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How to deal with colleague that uses you as a crutch to complete their tasks?

I have this colleague, that when she joined our team, I could clearly tell that she was having a hard time picking up the speed (She taught programming before, but never actually coded anything). So I ...
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Dealing with colleagues that want to borrow your time, but downplay your effort

Quite often, we need help from other departments. Whenever I need to do so, I always give them enough time to respond, or enough understanding if they can't respond in time. However, a colleague of ...
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Is it reasonable to ask that all technical discussions be carried out in the national language? [duplicate]

I work in a small company in a country where the national language is English, and the majority of developers only speak English, recently three developers were teamed up to work on a feature, two of ...
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How do you act when team members are quarreling?

Few weeks ago several team members were "friendly" discussing a problem at work. They have been under lot of pressure lately due to a project running past its deadline in addition to pressure from the ...
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Colleagues make fun of me, should I ignore them or answer them back? [closed]

I work in a big team of 50+ people. The working culture of my company is very open and employees do not sit quietly, they make noise all day. People are mostly under 30 years old. Even my managers ...
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Is it acceptable to politely decline to speak about one's personal life?

I've seen this answer, where the person says that one might present oneself as a jackass if they hide their personal lives from their co-workers. In-spite of that, I believe that revealing ...
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How to write a email to HOD of the company seeking support [closed]

Help me with quotes and lines for sending a official mail to all the department heads of my company, seeking a good support from their end. I joined in a new company so everyone should know about ...
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Should work computer/tech work colleagues be judged depending on whether they attended a computer science university?

I just witnessed an incident at my company where one of my colleagues accused another colleague and his arguments were based on the University he graduated from. Is it correct to engage in such ...
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How should I deal with these co-workers who benefit at my expense? [closed]

I hate two of my colleagues who I'm forced to share close proximity with in the office. If someone asks me a question one of them will jump in. If someone asks me for help with something easy, one of ...
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How to cope with forgetful or detail challenged colleague [closed]

"Oh oops I forgot", " What?? Oh yeah I guess I remember now, what was that detail again?" How to address a colleague that constantly drops balls? Edited to add: e.g. I told them how to do task X ...
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How to deal with a workplace crush [closed]

I recently joined a new workplace and a colleague there reminds me of an old lover, because of his looks like and similarities in cultural origin. The colleague has a girlfriend. He is very reserved, ...
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How should I deal with co-workers lack of hygiene at work? [duplicate]

I work in a small office. There are no screens to separate work spaces and I can't help but notice when my co-worker picks his nose or wipes his nose with his hand when he has a cold. He then goes on ...
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Dealing with depressed and frustrated colleague

I have been working at my current job for a little under a year, and am generally quite happy - apart from sitting one desk down from a project manager who seems to be quite depressed and frustrated. ...
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Is it appropriate to warn my coworker of our boss's dissatisfaction?

I work as a software engineer and during a recent meeting my boss mentioned offhand that if one of my coworkers (not present) didn't start making some progress on the project we are working on, that ...
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I find my co-worker irritating - should I be honest? [duplicate]

I started a graduate program in summer along with another graduate who started a little after me. He is very quiet and every time I try to start a conversation with him, he doesn't seem to want to ...
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Dealing with collegue who tries to steal projects

I am working in a team that supports operation. The team is awesome but when I get a project a guy wants it and start digging nose into it until he makes it his through contacts with vendor and ...
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Coworker not taking a hint? [closed]

Quick background: I'm relatively new at my workplace (a few months in). I was recently chatting with a coworker when I found out that I may be asked to present something to the team later this month. ...
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Who are the most suitable people to be chosen as job references in résumé?

I am in the process of searching a new job. If I would be asked about references who I know, whose name should I include in the résumé/job application form etc. Please help me choose the best ...
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How to deal with a coworker who makes hateful comments about my religion?

This is taking place in India. I have a colleague (we work on the same team and project) who frequently makes offensive comments about my religion at work, and on Facebook. I do not want to further ...
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A new employee has upset the team/office atmosphere, should I discuss this with my manager?

I'm a senior'ish software developer working in an open plan office with other departments besides mine. A new member has joined our team, and after two weeks, this person has upset almost all the ...
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How should I deal with a difficult colleague who keeps giving me work? [duplicate]

As the most junior in my team, I've been working with a challenging manager/colleague (let's call him A). I've been working on a project with him for the past month, something that usually takes a ...
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what to do if my colleagues are extremely cold/distant?

After many years of unemployment (thanks Spain) I finally got a full time job. I started in September and found that my co-workers were the coldest people I've ever met. I asked a few friends and an ...
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Is it professional to tell my manager about office bullying

I have worked in this company for a few years and have changed managers a few times due to organizational change. My current manager is a really cool guy and it was great working for him. There is an ...
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Workpace Hierarchy: Establishing respect with mature co-worker

I work as a programmer and have been lead developer on a new project at my company for some time. I haven't been given the official title of lead developer, but for this project it is a role I have ...
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Nosey colleague [duplicate]

I work in an open plan office where there are 4 people to each bank of desks The lady who sits diagonally behind me will turn round and ‘stare into’ absolutely every conversation that I have with a ...
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How can I socialize when I sit apart from the rest of the team?

About a month ago, I started work as a software developer in an office of about 50 people, as part of a team of eight. Most of the team sits in cubicles in a section off to one side of the office; ...
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How to Constructively Express Dissatisfaction with Management Style [duplicate]

Summary I am frequently being criticised for the mistakes made by an underperforming colleague, which is slowly grinding me down and making me feel like I should look for a new job. My boss seems to ...
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How to manage a team member who is uncooperative and who underperforms?

I am a team leader of a team of six women. One of them has been working for twenty years in the firm and is used to saying whatever she wants. In the past five years the company has been introducing ...
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How to get rid of a colleague who keeps pestering me?

There is a very nice lady in my office who I've faced some problems with recently. At first she asked me a few questions about her cell phone or fixing something in her computer which was OK. Then ...
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I think one of my co-workers may be homeless

In the last few weeks I've noticed one of my co-workers sleeping in their vehicle in our parking lot when I come in in the morning. It looks like the vehicle hasn't moved in a long time (not positive ...
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How can have a peer whom I mentor to be more proactive and use better judgement in his work?

I work in an IT audit and compliance department. A peer of two weeks whom I am informally mentoring is very enthusiastic and picking up the work nicely. Unfortunately, his attitude could be more ...
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How to deal with programmers who think there is “one true way” to write software? [closed]

I've been coding for iOS for years now, and I'm continually finding that I encounter programmers who believe there is one true way to write software for iOS; typically these are guys who have very ...
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How to manage other people who want to jump on board of your successful project?

I am currently working on a few high profile projects which are highly interesting for the company. I am observing lots of interest from my colleagues, and as projects start getting steam and first ...
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How to handle unreachable colleagues not performing / your work being blocked

I'm responsible for the setup of a whole range of new servers, to replace older platforms. This is in a multi-national, with offices across the world. As such I've had to order servers through each ...
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Is it appropriate to give personal birthday gift to a coworker at a new job?

I'm male and I'm only two months into a new job. There is one colleague in another department, a woman, who I don't currently work with (and, sometimes, don't even meet in the office during the day), ...