Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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My boss saw me doing personal thing in desk

Yesterday, my usually cool and supportive boss came to my desk for asking something and he saw me doing unofficial non-work activities at my desk. He did not react much but he asked what I was doing. ...
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I need to appeal a termination/failing report: how should I legally word it? [on hold]

I work in a hospital/university setting and I recently finished an internship for which I was evaluated. I am required to pass this rotation according to the university requirements and failure would ...
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How to go “above and beyond” when I don't have time, resources or processes to do so every single day?

I previously asked A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior? and really appreciated the answer by maple_shaft to act as professional ...
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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior?

I work in a matrix-management based company where multiple superiors decide my performance appraisal, salary increases, etc. I have no single manager. I have evidence that one of my superiors is ...
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How do I tell my colleagues that the codebase they've built is a total mess and their practices are ancient?

The situation A few months ago, I've been working with a new team in a new company. The company offers some web services and the team's role is to develop and maintain those services. Problem #1: ...
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Co-leader quit in anger, now says “it doesn't count”: how to enforce [closed]

I am a co-leader with another person on a group project. Today she said "I quit. I'll tell our supervisor." I went ahead and talked to our supervisor informing them of this. Also I sent an email to ...
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Minimizing damage to reputation after an unfortunate sequence of events

In the past two years, I quit two jobs and was fired from one without cause. I'm a senior-level web developer, if it matters. The first, after a year working there I was significantly late being paid ...
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Being asked to do work “on your own time”

Is it ethical for a manager/supervisor to ask you to do some task that they consider menial or trivial on your own time? For example, when a software developer starts a new position, they need to set ...
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Was let go from my job and client wants to know what happened. What do I say?

I was hired as an Account Supervisor at a small communications firm. The owner was my boss and the rest of the staff about 3 other people were contractors. I worked there roughly for 3 months, doing ...
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Subordinate had conversations with my boss- should I have been told? [closed]

I am a C level manager whose direct report, a senior manager, went to my boss to complain I was over managing him. Through several meetings it was determined my report was at fault for not taking ...
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Recruiting company misrepresented position. Recourse? [closed]

Recruiting firm A submitted me for a position with a company. I was offered and accepted a position with that company, turning down an offer with a separate company that was given the same day. The ...
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How to handle a manager that seems to react out of personal grudge?

I used to have a good relationship with my direct team manager (I am a software engineer). But turned out that all is fine as long as you agree with him and be submissive. I had noticed that he takes ...
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Is there a conflict of interest if a close relative works at a competing company to the one I am applying for?

I am applying for an internship in a tech-related field. I am applying to Company X, and hopefully will get an internship. One of my parents though works for Company Y, a direct rival to Company X. ...
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Somebody hit my car at the client's carpark

A couple of days ago, I noticed someone had clipped my car in the underground carpark at work. I work as a consultant in the building of a client. The carpark is available only for the client's ...
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Complex Interpersonal Situation Post-Resignment [closed]

I was volunteering for a non-profit for three years until I was asked to join the board a few months ago. The Exec. Director and I work very well together. The board comprises of his parents and a ...
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How to tell my company that I am having issues with my boss?

I am in a services company where my employer has the responsibility to arrange or facilitate other consulting positions; usually the immediate boss takes care of this as his primary responsibility of ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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How to encourage decision-makers to communicate their viewpoints more openly?

I am a newly hired C-level worker at a very small company (less than 30 staff) and am part of the decision-making body. It is my first time at this level of responsibility and here is my first ...
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How to respond better to criticism or challenge?

My line managers are in agreement that I present a natural flair for sales, marketing and personal relationships. I can present engagingly to an audience of 400 persons or more and I can build strong ...
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How to handle last minute work deadlines that I cannot meet due to personal schedules? [closed]

Scenario/Background: I have two bosses, with one of whom I manage variable daily processes (priority 1), while the other one gives me longer term projects (priority 2). Due to the extreme variability ...
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What is a constructive response to employees who get angry with you after you proved them wrong?

At a recent business meeting, I was trying to speak sense into someone who just kept counter-arguing against me. I always have a peaceful and relaxed tone when sharing different views, yet the other ...
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How does one tactfully express concern over a team member's capabilities?

I'm a developer and the person I'm describing has been with us for over a year as part of the Quality Assurance team. They've been trained up by a true veteran of QA and while they aren't exactly the ...
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Being at a higher position than colleagues who have been with company longer than you

I am soon going to be starting a job in where I will be significantly younger and less experienced than my colleages, who have been with the company for much longer, yet I will be in a higher position ...
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I recently won a workplace dispute with a co-worker and now he/she is sulking [duplicate]

A person that works below me recently initiated a workplace dispute with me regarding a technical matter and my advice was ultimately acted upon by the boss. Since this time, the co-worker has been ...
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What is the best way to present to a boss an idea of group of us leaving for a startup

One of my coworkers and I have decided that we'd like to go part ways with our current employer and start up our own business. Currently we are in a small IT company with their software development ...
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How to handle a condescending co-worker?

It's my first time posting here so just bear with me. I work at a software development company that primarily focuses on C#-based web development, but they also work on desktop applications on ...
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I think I may have been terminated, how can I find out my status?

Today I resigned. My boss did not take it well. He locked me out of my company email and informed me that he wanted me to work strict office hours during my notice period of 1 week. (9-5 is unheard-of ...
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How to handle user request when boss denies it based on missing knowledge?

A customer wanted me to solve a particular problem and boss said it is impossible to do because of a particular fact. However, I found a publication which shows that this particular fact is possible ...
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How to deal with lying co-worker who misrepresents issues or makes up scenarios

I've come in contact with a situation recently at work where a co-worker I formerly worked with in an old position has been misrepresenting or creating tension by lying about situations of contact ...
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How to decline after signing when I get a new good offer [duplicate]

I have applied to company A on 1st June and give them a joining date of 23 June (today). company A called me on Saturday Morning 22 June (yesterday) for a confirmation that I am gonna come on Monday ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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How to handle conflicts gracefully in the team? and come up amicable decision?

I am working as consultant to US based Organization. I am development team lead and we are starting development of new project soon. The architect of the team proposed new approach and new direction ...
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Time/Punch clock at least 1 minute ahead, people being written up for being 1 minute late according to time clock? [closed]

As the title says, myself and others have been getting write ups for being one minute late according to the punch clock, even though in reality we were on time. The time clock is always off by 1 ...
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How to communicate disagreement or concern about management's decision to promote someone?

I have heard and read that promotions, especially after the first level of management, are not based on merit, performance or expertise, but rather on being aligned with senior management, being more ...
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Idle at work. Could but are not allowed to help

Andrew is a friend of mine. Andrew's direct boss is Brian who is the head of the department. Unfortunately Andrew doesn't get enough work from Brian and he often bored and idle there. It also causes ...
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Should I replace an AV accessory that was lost by someone else?

I work for an education oriented non-profit and recently we started letting people take A/V and photography equipment in exchange for a copy of the final product, so basically for free. I'm in charge ...
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Employees I manage in conflict and face to face leads to further conflicts where one of the two sulks and goes into a shell

I have been managing teams where many a times I receive complaints from one team member about the other. The most common complaint being - rude / arrogant behavior or not helping out when any help is ...
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Best way to deal with dishonest colleagues [closed]

As a technical project lead, I received a problem report from a Colleague marked as "Critical". Though I could have delegated that to another colleague on a Monday, I put some effort on a Friday late ...
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As assistant manager, supporting a team member the boss is down on

I'm the assistant manager of a small team, and the manager, "Mary", and I have a large difference of opinion about one of our members, "Ethan". He's the least experienced person we have. Overall, I ...
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How do I professionally take over a project or role that was being handled poorly by an under qualified but well-liked person? [closed]

Over the course of my career, I have been hired twice by different companies to take over a project or role that was being handled poorly. In both cases, the person that I was 'replacing' was under ...
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Interviewing someone with personal conflict [closed]

The question is purely hypothetical, I am not in that situation just was wondering. So which of the following possibilities is the most professional way to handle the situation, where you have to ...
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Two subcontractors want to send me to the same client. How to handle the situation?

I'm currently looking for a job and have been contacted by various companies and agencies. I interviewed with a subcontractor (call them A) and was expecting feedback from them after they reviewed ...
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Consulting for a competitor under a different role: possible conflict of interest?

I work as a circuit design engineer at my full-time (W2) company where I got recently promoted from circuit test engineer. My previous role of circuit test engineer at this company involved circuit ...
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What if someone I manage shows different attitude to me vs my superiors when given tasks?

I am the new manager, promoted recently; he is team lead (most senior in terms of technical experience). Basic situation: I give some tasks. He looks for every single opportunity to complain against ...
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If I lose my job as a first time manager, what steps can I take to bring my career back on track? [duplicate]

I enjoy working with large teams, across teams and coordinating people. I was promoted from team lead to manager because senior boses across the compay recognized that I am good at getting other ...
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How should I handle a conflict of interest of a coworker?

I am a senior software engineer in a small private company of about 55 employees. There is a manager here of the EE (Electrical Engineering) group who at every possible chance asks the CEO for me and ...
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If I get blamed for a delay I didn't contribute to, how can I defend myself? [duplicate]

I am a new manager and performance appraisals are coming up. Although in general I am regarded as above standards (I was promoted for being the top employee of the year) I am aware that some of my ...
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How should a superior react when a subordinate complains to senior management about him?

An employee I am managing sent an e-mail to senior management claiming that my expectations are too high, I am assigning too much work for his skill level, and that I am too strict about workplace ...
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Getting a reference from a hostile work environment

The most recent job I worked at things didn't go so well. I always tried my best but for a number of reasons my productivity and relationship with other coworkers were strained. I believe it was a ...