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Is there a conflict of interest in offer letter

I received a job offer from a company with following clauses Clause 1: We expect that you will not engage in or do any business or render any professional service outside the company either on ...
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Uncomfortable race comments in workplace

I work in a small office. We've had the same cleaning lady for a number of years now, and when she comes once a week to dust/clean my office I'll chat with her. Recently she's made a few comments ...
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Can a team lead force an employee to change careers? [closed]

A colleague of mine held a position which was in her career path. But the higher-ups deemed that the position had "no visibility" (i.e. no visible positive effect) to the team. So they slowly ...
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How to deal with a bossy, micro-managing co-worker [duplicate]

I'm a web dev (mostly front-end/UX designer), at a small shop of less than 10. I was hired quite quickly as they had projects piling up and the previous person in my position had kind of left them ...
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what recourse would milton from office space have had?

So I was watching Office Space the other day and in it there's a character named Milton who's constantly being abused by his employer. Basically, he's never told he's been laid off and although he is ...
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Managing conflict with coworkers to relieve a hostile work environment [closed]

I work for a small software development team, and recently things have started getting extremely uncomfortable for me at work. We have a couple of girls who seem overly dramatic for no reason at ...
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can I get fired for telling a coworker I heard she would be let go? [closed]

I told my coworker that our boss said she might be let go until she is of age to serve alcohol in the restaurant where I work. I'm not a supervisor or a manager of any sort; my boss told me that she ...
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How to deal with an employee who ignores you

I am having an issue with an employee/former co-worker who is flat out ignoring me. I work in a department in a college and for many years I worked as a student assistant. When I graduated I became a ...
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How to deal with a manager who stonewalls me? [closed]

Let me first say that I have read How to proceed when remote boss doesn't answer emails . This has some great information, but my problem has gone a step further. Let me first clarify that I have two ...
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1answer
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How to react to your boss when there is a misunderstanding [closed]

I was working as a waiter for 7 months when I decided to tell my manager and boss that I will be quitting the next month. I explained that the job hours were not helping with my school and the salary ...
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Colleague angry at me and I have no idea why [closed]

Yesterday I had an awkward encounter with a colleague. I just greeted him as I passed by him in the hallway and in return he accused me of not wanting to fix my algorithm for a report I have developed ...
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My boss saw me doing personal thing in desk

Yesterday, my usually cool and supportive boss came to my desk for asking something and he saw me doing unofficial non-work activities at my desk. He did not react much but he asked what I was doing. ...
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How to go “above and beyond” when I don't have time, resources or processes to do so every single day?

I previously asked A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior? and really appreciated the answer by maple_shaft to act as professional ...
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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior?

I work in a matrix-management based company where multiple superiors decide my performance appraisal, salary increases, etc. I have no single manager. I have evidence that one of my superiors is ...
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How do I tell my colleagues that the codebase they've built is a total mess and their practices are ancient?

The situation A few months ago, I've been working with a new team in a new company. The company offers some web services and the team's role is to develop and maintain those services. Problem #1: ...
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2answers
680 views

Co-leader quit in anger, now says “it doesn't count”: how to enforce [closed]

I am a co-leader with another person on a group project. Today she said "I quit. I'll tell our supervisor." I went ahead and talked to our supervisor informing them of this. Also I sent an email to ...
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Minimizing damage to reputation after an unfortunate sequence of events

In the past two years, I quit two jobs and was fired from one without cause. I'm a senior-level web developer, if it matters. The first, after a year working there I was significantly late being paid ...
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Being asked to do work “on your own time”

Is it ethical for a manager/supervisor to ask you to do some task that they consider menial or trivial on your own time? For example, when a software developer starts a new position, they need to set ...
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1answer
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Was let go from my job and client wants to know what happened. What do I say?

I was hired as an Account Supervisor at a small communications firm. The owner was my boss and the rest of the staff about 3 other people were contractors. I worked there roughly for 3 months, doing ...
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Subordinate had conversations with my boss- should I have been told? [closed]

I am a C level manager whose direct report, a senior manager, went to my boss to complain I was over managing him. Through several meetings it was determined my report was at fault for not taking ...
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Recruiting company misrepresented position. Recourse? [closed]

Recruiting firm A submitted me for a position with a company. I was offered and accepted a position with that company, turning down an offer with a separate company that was given the same day. The ...
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1answer
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How to handle a manager that seems to react out of personal grudge?

I used to have a good relationship with my direct team manager (I am a software engineer). But turned out that all is fine as long as you agree with him and be submissive. I had noticed that he takes ...
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Is there a conflict of interest if a close relative works at a competing company to the one I am applying for?

I am applying for an internship in a tech-related field. I am applying to Company X, and hopefully will get an internship. One of my parents though works for Company Y, a direct rival to Company X. ...
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Somebody hit my car at the client's carpark

A couple of days ago, I noticed someone had clipped my car in the underground carpark at work. I work as a consultant in the building of a client. The carpark is available only for the client's ...
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4answers
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Complex Interpersonal Situation Post-Resignment [closed]

I was volunteering for a non-profit for three years until I was asked to join the board a few months ago. The Exec. Director and I work very well together. The board comprises of his parents and a ...
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How to tell my company that I am having issues with my boss?

I am in a services company where my employer has the responsibility to arrange or facilitate other consulting positions; usually the immediate boss takes care of this as his primary responsibility of ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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How to encourage decision-makers to communicate their viewpoints more openly?

I am a newly hired C-level worker at a very small company (less than 30 staff) and am part of the decision-making body. It is my first time at this level of responsibility and here is my first ...
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How to respond better to criticism or challenge?

My line managers are in agreement that I present a natural flair for sales, marketing and personal relationships. I can present engagingly to an audience of 400 persons or more and I can build strong ...
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How to handle last minute work deadlines that I cannot meet due to personal schedules? [closed]

Scenario/Background: I have two bosses, with one of whom I manage variable daily processes (priority 1), while the other one gives me longer term projects (priority 2). Due to the extreme variability ...
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What is a constructive response to employees who get angry with you after you proved them wrong?

At a recent business meeting, I was trying to speak sense into someone who just kept counter-arguing against me. I always have a peaceful and relaxed tone when sharing different views, yet the other ...
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How does one tactfully express concern over a team member's capabilities?

I'm a developer and the person I'm describing has been with us for over a year as part of the Quality Assurance team. They've been trained up by a true veteran of QA and while they aren't exactly the ...
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Being at a higher position than colleagues who have been with company longer than you

I am soon going to be starting a job in where I will be significantly younger and less experienced than my colleages, who have been with the company for much longer, yet I will be in a higher position ...
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I recently won a workplace dispute with a co-worker and now he/she is sulking [duplicate]

A person that works below me recently initiated a workplace dispute with me regarding a technical matter and my advice was ultimately acted upon by the boss. Since this time, the co-worker has been ...
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What is the best way to present to a boss an idea of group of us leaving for a startup

One of my coworkers and I have decided that we'd like to go part ways with our current employer and start up our own business. Currently we are in a small IT company with their software development ...
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How to handle a condescending co-worker?

It's my first time posting here so just bear with me. I work at a software development company that primarily focuses on C#-based web development, but they also work on desktop applications on ...
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I think I may have been terminated, how can I find out my status?

Today I resigned. My boss did not take it well. He locked me out of my company email and informed me that he wanted me to work strict office hours during my notice period of 1 week. (9-5 is unheard-of ...
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How to handle user request when boss denies it based on missing knowledge?

A customer wanted me to solve a particular problem and boss said it is impossible to do because of a particular fact. However, I found a publication which shows that this particular fact is possible ...
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How to deal with lying co-worker who misrepresents issues or makes up scenarios

I've come in contact with a situation recently at work where a co-worker I formerly worked with in an old position has been misrepresenting or creating tension by lying about situations of contact ...
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How to decline after signing when I get a new good offer [duplicate]

I have applied to company A on 1st June and give them a joining date of 23 June (today). company A called me on Saturday Morning 22 June (yesterday) for a confirmation that I am gonna come on Monday ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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How to handle conflicts gracefully in the team? and come up amicable decision?

I am working as consultant to US based Organization. I am development team lead and we are starting development of new project soon. The architect of the team proposed new approach and new direction ...
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Time/Punch clock at least 1 minute ahead, people being written up for being 1 minute late according to time clock? [closed]

As the title says, myself and others have been getting write ups for being one minute late according to the punch clock, even though in reality we were on time. The time clock is always off by 1 ...
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How to communicate disagreement or concern about management's decision to promote someone?

I have heard and read that promotions, especially after the first level of management, are not based on merit, performance or expertise, but rather on being aligned with senior management, being more ...
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Idle at work. Could but are not allowed to help

Andrew is a friend of mine. Andrew's direct boss is Brian who is the head of the department. Unfortunately Andrew doesn't get enough work from Brian and he often bored and idle there. It also causes ...
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Should I replace an AV accessory that was lost by someone else?

I work for an education oriented non-profit and recently we started letting people take A/V and photography equipment in exchange for a copy of the final product, so basically for free. I'm in charge ...
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Employees I manage in conflict and face to face leads to further conflicts where one of the two sulks and goes into a shell

I have been managing teams where many a times I receive complaints from one team member about the other. The most common complaint being - rude / arrogant behavior or not helping out when any help is ...
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Best way to deal with dishonest colleagues [closed]

As a technical project lead, I received a problem report from a Colleague marked as "Critical". Though I could have delegated that to another colleague on a Monday, I put some effort on a Friday late ...
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As assistant manager, supporting a team member the boss is down on

I'm the assistant manager of a small team, and the manager, "Mary", and I have a large difference of opinion about one of our members, "Ethan". He's the least experienced person we have. Overall, I ...