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I will soon become the manager of a close friend. How do I be an effective manager and friend?

A close friend of mine will soon be moving into my department. We see each other outside of work and our significant others both work together at a different institution. I want to be an effective ...
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My boss's boss doesn't trust me anymore because of my boss! [closed]

I am in a sticky situation at work whereby I was the first person to be recruited several years ago. I was reporting directly to the person who recruited me. Then last year a new manager was recruited ...
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How to categorize and track business relationships?

I have been deliberate in networking and gaining visibility in my workplace over the past year. Many of these opportunities have come fairly naturally as a result of my work and choice of additional ...
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How to offer a good apology

This morning I ended up missing a teleconference that I regularly host with two peers on another continent. I was doing research and lost track of time. I rely heavily on my Outlook notifications ...
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How do I engage a mentor?

I have been assigned a mentor recently. He is a high up regional executive referred by an acquaintance. It's been a month and he has taken me out to lunch once to get to know me. The reason I was ...
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Dealing with a senior colleague not pulling his weight [duplicate]

I'm fresh out of college working in an IT company. I'm really enjoying myself and am working on a small project with 5 others. However one of the other developers (all senior to me) is really bad at ...
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How to Deal with co-workers competitive behaviors?

I hangout with two co-workers (lets say A and B) during lunch break. Both invite me to go to lunch with them then I seem to be invisible to both of them. Both will not talk to me and ignore my ...
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What is the purpose of 1-on-1 meetings with your direct leader/boss?

I have worked in places where one-on-one meetings (a meeting where only the boss and one other employee are present) are a weekly thing and topics can vary from "what did you do this weekend" to "do ...
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Ways to prevent employees from talking not related things during meeting [duplicate]

There are many instances that I've attended a meeting. During the first 30 minutes the meeting is very okay, every employees are focused on the meeting, giving ideas and you can really see the ...
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Resolving awkward situation with flaky co-worker

How would you approach this? I have a male acquaintance that I work with who pulled some flaky stuff while trying to meet with me for a social event (not related to work) - this person set the time to ...
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How do you “confront” your manager if you believe he wronged you?

I am looking for an advice from those more experienced than I am. In my current team I was working in a project for quite a long time, mainly doing maintenance (unfortunately). I believed that I ...
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How to decline participation in team building activities

I have this situation where I can't figure out what to do. Big team building event is coming up and it is happening at place where my girlfriend loves to go few times at summer time, it is really ...
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Is it correct to talk about your previous job online?

After changing jobs, and after a fairly short period of time (6 months), I've posted something about my previous job. To put you in situation: I was working on a third party web development company, ...
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Mistreated in office. What is the right approach to deal with such a situation?

First of all I don't know that such a question can be posted here or not but seeing the quality of answers, I had to ask. I work as a software engineer in a small organization and here everyone knows ...
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I recently won a workplace dispute with a co-worker and now he/she is sulking [duplicate]

A person that works below me recently initiated a workplace dispute with me regarding a technical matter and my advice was ultimately acted upon by the boss. Since this time, the co-worker has been ...
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How do I ask my former boss for back pay when I've been grossly underpaid?

I worked for a chocolatier restaurant for barely above minimum wage. After a year, I quit due to the low pay. Since then, I've done some research online and with other professionals to find that I ...
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How can I politely ask a coworker to stop forwarding emails to the company distribution list

A coworker of mine has recently started forwarding all sorts of newsletters, community event details, and promotions to the company-wide email distribution list. None of the stuff she forwards have ...
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Breakfast conundrum

Each Friday one person from my 16-man team brings bread and morning-cakes for the rest of the team. We then take a 30-45 minute meeting where we eat and talk. There are no offical rules to what you ...
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How to act when coworker brings an infant to visit the office?

It's happened several times at several offices that someone brings their baby into work. It's a social thing where the manager wants people to see his baby and introduce his wife to the office. ...
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To approach coworker “attempting to help” personally, or contact my manager and get them to clarify?

I currently work in a small office with several people most of whom are not in the same department as I am. One of whom have been with the business for quite a while and act as a mouthpiece for my ...
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How to restore friendly atmosphere with team member after I was proven right in series of Arguments?

I am working as IT consultant to US based organization. I have a team member. He is senior in the organization and team also. His role is developer and he is responsible for development of specific ...
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Bring food to work on the first day? [closed]

So I got an internship and we had the orientation and everything. I am going to my actual workplace tomorrow and thinking of taking a box of doughnuts for everybody. Would that be okay?
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How should I handle a workplace relationship that has played a part in another employee's termination

I work for a small company with a flat structure, with our company president as the lone official manager. There are ~25 employees. Several years ago a pair of coworkers (let's go with Alice and ...
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Is it normal to have so little human interaction in R&D? [closed]

Being employed as a fresh CS graduate for a few months now, I started to introspect the atmosphere at our company which seems lacking human interaction. I know that main task of computer engineer is ...
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How to un-friend my boss on facebook

Before I hired in at my current company I was in a class with owner of the company. He added me on Facebook which was no problem at the time because we were just classmates. Now that I work for him, I ...
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Leaving company and want to show apprecaition to coworker for help and support [closed]

I'm work for a global professional services firm, which I'm leaving in the next few weeks. I'm wanting to do something for one of my managers who went out of his way on several occasions to help me ...
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Client says “First round's on me”: do I say “I'll get the second round”? [closed]

A client wants to meet up for drinks, and they've offered to pick up the first round. Do I offer to pick up the second round?
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Should I tell to my boss that I don't like to work with the new colleague?

A new colleague was hired at my department 3 months ago. He is quite disrespectful towards other employees since the first day, acts weird, has no experience and no actual work results, but is ...
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How can I refuse interviewing someone I know/am a friend of?

My question is related to Conflict of Interest at interview?, but from the other side of the interview process. Here are situations I have been in: I was asked to interview a person I knew. I was ...
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How to handle boss's invitation to become a Facebook Friend knowing that sometimes my Friends might post something that is not work-appropriate

I've had a pretty good working relationship with my boss for the past 1 1/2 years. He trusts me to deal with the problems he gives me, I give him the best quality work that I can, occasionally there ...
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Letter of thanks for an office invite by a potential employer

I have been invited to spend a day at a workplace after almost 7 grueling rounds of interviews, with an invite as this being the last phase to wrap up their decision. I am looking to draft a thank you ...
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A coworker rejected my romantic advances and I got her fired, how do I recover from this? [closed]

So this was a while back, when I was working as a Project Coordinator (I've been promoted now), a new PC joined our team and it was my job to train her. I was attracted to her and we talked and ...
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How should I approach my boss after offending him?

I made a small joke which offended my manager. It wasn't racist, sexist or anything of the sort. Here's what it was. My manager is the head of an extracurricular club at work. Since it's the start ...
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How can I encourage my Team Lead to give me the negative feedback directly before escalating management?

I have been working in an organization for 1 year and few months. After graduation it is my first job. After 1 year they gave me really good increment and recognized me as one of their really good ...
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Why should romantic relationships be disclosed to HR?

Why do some companies ask their employees to disclose romantic relationships with coworkers? Is the company somehow exposed to legal liability otherwise? My instinct is such relationships are none of ...
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How do you tell a friend they are not qualified when asked to recommend them for a job in your company?

An old colleague asked me to recommend him for a job in my company. I'm hesitant because when we worked at the same company, he didn't have the best reputation. He constantly missed deadlines, never ...
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How To Handle An Ignored Request

Where I work, we have a system to open tickets for any issues or service requests one might have. In June, I created a ticket to have a phone installed in one of the rooms here. The person in ...
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Teammate ignores and excludes me

I'm very upset with the way my teammate has been behaving. I only have one teammate in my department and he's the first person I work with when I join the company. He was nice and helped me with ...
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My boss is blocking my growth, should I bring it up in my 1-on-1 with his boss?

My boss is effectively blocking my growth in the company. He type casts me as a junior manager. Now that my project is gradually growing he wants me to move to a newer, smaller project whereas I see ...
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How can I stop a flirting co-worker without damaging our professional relationship?

There is a co-worker that is being way overly friendly with me. Nothing that would really be deemed unprofessional, and I am not offended in any way, but it is just that little notch beyond what a ...
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someone always give you hard time, what do you do? [closed]

I work in a small company, normally there are only 2 girls in the office (including me). My colleague (the other girl) has worked here for 3 years and I just started, half year or so. Other people ...
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How can I stay focused and enjoy work when I am the only member on a team?

I am working solely on a project since few weeks, and there is no one currently in my team. I don't have any problems regards to work, and i have no competition or challenge too. I directly ...
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Coping with the world-weary environment at the office [closed]

I am among the first 3 employees of the company. My Seniors and peers (3 seniors and 2 peers) are good to work with. A few months back, new people were hired by my company. I was friendly with new ...
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Colleague keeps trying to set me up to fail and discredit me

I have been working at my company for around 9 months. It is small place and I am having problems with a woman I work with. I was brought in with a couple of other people to drastically expand the ...
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How do you break off a friendship with a coworker?

Reputation will stick with you more closely in a workplace setting. If I get the reputation as being difficult to work with then advancing or moving laterally in my organization will be extremely ...
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How to improve allocation of work for efficiency’s sake?

Often my manager will ask for a simple task to be completed ‘urgently’, and in the majority of these cases will ask for the team to divide the work amongst itself so that it gets done as quickly as ...
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Conflict of Interest at interview?

I just found out that someone I know will be interviewing me for a position. It is my brother's good friend's sister - so someone I am acquainted with but don't know too well. Should I let the company ...
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What do I do when coworkers are constantly asking to borrow money? [closed]

Several times over the past two years coworkers have asked to borrow money from me. I listen to the how, why, and what and I have loaned money out probably 6 or 7 times. The amounts have varied from ...
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How to deal with a talented but direct/unfriendly team member?

My game hobby project is starting grow rapidly lately, with over 10 members who are actively contributing. In the team are currently two pixel artists. There is a third artist who I worked with ...
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How do I resign when I know my employer will lose a big client when I leave?

I'm in a tricky position. I don't enjoy where I'm working and I've been offered another opportunity. Unfortunately, I know the current client that I'm consulting for isn't on good terms with my ...