Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.

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How to maintain social integration when your workload is substantially different than those around you

So, I was hired early this year. I got about 4-5 months of training on the product I'm QA'ing for, then I was moved out of manual QA into automation of tests in our application. At the moment, I'm ...
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What's the most appropriate way to introduce my boss to friends and family?

There is an upcoming social event organized by my employer where friends and family will be invited. The company is a fairly small company in the UK and I will inevitably need to introduce my family ...
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How to get intern to not stare at me during the day? [duplicate]

I work at a relatively small company (55 employees) and we are basically a bunch of guys developing software at our R&D sector. Recently, we hired a new intern to help with organizing a lot of ...
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What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one?

My coworker's father passed away. The following day, an employee from HR sent out an office-wide email with the obituary and viewing details with the coworker's permission, and started a fund for a ...
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Is there a way to NOT participate in office politics and still be successful?

The question pretty much speaks for itself. I am a hard worker, very productive, and usually the one everyone turns to when they have a problem. However, I work in a privately owned company, and ...
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How can I function with a manager who has a very different working style to me? [closed]

I am the only software developer in a company with about 100 employees, and my immediate boss is a senior manager. I started working there 3.5 months ago and there is a 6 month probation period. My ...
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How to have a relationship with someone at the office?

I know it's frowned upon, but if you end up in a personal relationship with someone at the office, what's the most professional way to go forward? Should you declare it with your managers? What ...
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I'm swamped at work and a colleague is slacking. Not sure if telling on him is professional [duplicate]

Title pretty much says it all. We work in pairs here at my company, and my peer has just quit, leaving me all alone. I'm swamped right now, having to work my part and my former peer's. There is an ...
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Significant difference of opinion between me (founder and head) and coworker (lead manager and owns 5% of company)

I want to file a patent on an algorithm / process which is used in a computer application developed by my company. The process isn't used in any large computer applications yet (I know that I'm ...
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How to determine if company is too “broken” to fix problems? [duplicate]

I accepted an IT job at a well-known company in the media industry. The company itself is doing well financially, mostly due to acquisitions and programming decisions. The business is supposed to ...
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Being called by a different firstname [duplicate]

I have a firstname which I like, however I prefer to be called by a different firstname in my life (which isn't on my ID Card), is that possible ? is there a way to announce it nicely to other people ...
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As an intern, how do I deal with a supervisor who's not always there?

I'm working as an intern in a software development role. My supervisor is working on systems or something similar, and is always busy. I never get to really see them. I mainly report my progress using ...
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Supervisor paid for my food, what's the proper way to express my appreciation?

I'm doing an internship in one of the Canadian government organization. Recently my supervisor got promoted, so our division(6 people) went out to a fancy restaurant to celebrity his promotion. ...
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Is creating a company library a good way to improve the working environment?

Many things, from science, to markets and products, are evolving fast these days. After a person gets her degree, chances are that their pace of learning slows down, at least in the fields outside ...
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How appropriate it would be to give a gift card to an ex coworker who helped me with references?

One of my ex co workers recently helped me with glowing references, so I have been thinking to give him a gift card. Not a big one but just a small one. Would it be right to do that?
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How to keep a good relationship with your colleague when managment helped you by making a decision that hurt them?

Firstly, I'd like to maintain a good relationship with every colleague. I work in a supermarket that is open from 7 - 22 everyday of the year. I have quite a lot of colleagues so when somebody isn't ...
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How can I stop being badgered for “leaving early” without hurting my co-worker relationships?

I currently work in a corporate environment where the majority of the company works typical hours of 8:30 AM - 5 PM. Many employees vary work hours based on personal obligations, however often ...
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Reporting to a friend

I am considering a position where I would be reporting to a close friend. Originally we were colleagues at different companies but in the same field, and now we have become close. (In this situation ...
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Interviewing with Other Companies a Week into Starting New Job [duplicate]

So I'm a new graduate who took months to find a new job. Recently I interviewed, and was very quickly hired, for a semi-decent job which I was more grateful for getting than anything. The work culture ...
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How to deal with jealousy after getting promoted?

I am part of a software development team in a big corporation. The team consists of the manager, several developers and one senior developer. The senior developer position recently became vacant and ...
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What to ask about at the next job interview after a bad maternity leave experience? [closed]

If you've seen my previous posts I had a very bad experience coming back from maternity leave. I want to have another baby in the future and I'm wandering what might be some sneaky questions to ask ...
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Resign (look for another job) or clear the air after bad mat leave return [closed]

I started working at my company right after university. I have a degree in math and physics and a diploma in computer programming. I work as a game developer. They found me on LinkedIn and approached ...
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New job: how to successfully transition from honeymoon to real world?

I just started a new job. It took the company a while to find somebody with my background, and as a result everybody is ecstatic about having me. My colleagues take me for lunch, all senior bosses are ...
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Very Distanced From Coworkers [closed]

I feel very distanced from my colleagues. I'm not sure if it's just this company or all software places so I am seeking your opinion. Also, I think it gets in the way of productivity because no one ...
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Coworker keeps asking to see the baby

My daughter is now 7 months old and since I came back from maternity leave my female coworker keeps nagging at me to see the baby. I live over an hour and 10 mins from my work so to bring the baby in ...
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How to Avoid a Awkward Work environment due to managerial decisions [closed]

I recently was hired on as a contract temp at a company to do web design. When I arrived, my team consisted of a full-time employee of the company and another temp who'd been there for about 3 months. ...
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Should I tell my manager if I think a coworker could be setting me up to get fired?

I was recently asked to update some test results and found the documents which were basis for those tests removed from our production system (but luckily still tucked away in a test system which ...
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A colleague owes me money. How do I / should I claim it back? [closed]

Some details: We're both young (<30 years) and university colleagues as well We bought something as a shared thing. It was my idea, but he agreed I need the money back. How should I remind him, ...
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Hostility Towards New Employees

The software company I work for often hires junior developers when there is a lot if testing to be done and there is time/room for them to get up to speed. however the senior developers get extremely ...
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How to navigate small talk at work [closed]

While I genuinely like my coworkers it is still a workplace and you can only talk about neutral topics without interjecting personal opinions into the mix. You don't have 'freedom of speech' at work. ...
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Connecting on Linkedin with people from other companies you work with

Say your company works for others. In a certain moment, you are involved in some of these businesses, by being present in negotiations and setting up the final product in the client offices. There, ...
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Is it appropriate for my manager to give me an expensive item for free?

My manager showed me a (relatively) new smartphone. I estimate it to be 1-2 years old. It's used, and he said it was a company phone that has been replaced. He asked if I want it, because my own ...
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How would I politely decline a request to carpool? [duplicate]

I work with someone that I've heard is thinking about asking to carpool with me and one other colleague (who I live with). The issue is, essentially, that we don't like the guy for various reasons ...
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How to react to your boss when there is a misunderstanding [closed]

I was working as a waiter for 7 months when I decided to tell my manager and boss that I will be quitting the next month. I explained that the job hours were not helping with my school and the salary ...
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Someone keeps stealing my food [closed]

I'm not sure if this question is appropriate for this SE, but I don't think there's one for laws and stuff. Recently, I've been noticing someone has been stealing food from my office desk drawers. I ...
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Suggestions for declining recommending a person for a position

A close friend of mine whom I have known through graduate school is asking me to recommend her for a position for which I feel she is ill-suited for. One of the requirements of the position is strong ...
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Colleague angry at me and I have no idea why [closed]

Yesterday I had an awkward encounter with a colleague. I just greeted him as I passed by him in the hallway and in return he accused me of not wanting to fix my algorithm for a report I have developed ...
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I will soon become the manager of a close friend. How do I be an effective manager and friend?

A close friend of mine will soon be moving into my department. We see each other outside of work and our significant others both work together at a different institution. I want to be an effective ...
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How to categorize and track business relationships?

I have been deliberate in networking and gaining visibility in my workplace over the past year. Many of these opportunities have come fairly naturally as a result of my work and choice of additional ...
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How to offer a good apology

This morning I ended up missing a teleconference that I regularly host with two peers on another continent. I was doing research and lost track of time. I rely heavily on my Outlook notifications ...
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How do I engage a mentor?

I have been assigned a mentor recently. He is a high up regional executive referred by an acquaintance. It's been a month and he has taken me out to lunch once to get to know me. The reason I was ...
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Dealing with a senior colleague not pulling his weight [duplicate]

I'm fresh out of college working in an IT company. I'm really enjoying myself and am working on a small project with 5 others. However one of the other developers (all senior to me) is really bad at ...
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How to Deal with co-workers competitive behaviors?

I hangout with two co-workers (lets say A and B) during lunch break. Both invite me to go to lunch with them then I seem to be invisible to both of them. Both will not talk to me and ignore my ...
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What is the purpose of 1-on-1 meetings with your direct leader/boss?

I have worked in places where one-on-one meetings (a meeting where only the boss and one other employee are present) are a weekly thing and topics can vary from "what did you do this weekend" to "do ...
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Ways to prevent employees from talking not related things during meeting [duplicate]

There are many instances that I've attended a meeting. During the first 30 minutes the meeting is very okay, every employees are focused on the meeting, giving ideas and you can really see the ...
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Resolving awkward situation with flaky co-worker

How would you approach this? I have a male acquaintance that I work with who pulled some flaky stuff while trying to meet with me for a social event (not related to work) - this person set the time to ...
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How do you “confront” your manager if you believe he wronged you?

I am looking for an advice from those more experienced than I am. In my current team I was working in a project for quite a long time, mainly doing maintenance (unfortunately). I believed that I ...
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How to decline participation in team building activities

I have this situation where I can't figure out what to do. Big team building event is coming up and it is happening at place where my girlfriend loves to go few times at summer time, it is really ...
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Is it okay to talk about your previous job online?

After changing jobs, and after a fairly short period of time (6 months), I've posted something about my previous job. To put you in situation: I was working on a third party web development company, ...
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Mistreated in office. What is the right approach to deal with such a situation?

First of all I don't know that such a question can be posted here or not but seeing the quality of answers, I had to ask. I work as a software engineer in a small organization and here everyone knows ...