Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.

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Newly married and questioning an inappropriate relationship [closed]

I am married only a year. When I met my husband, he had only 2 female employees. One, very young, and one about our age, and extremely attractive. They are all great friends, and get along nicely in ...
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Client says “First round's on me”: do I say “I'll get the second round”? [closed]

A client wants to meet up for drinks, and they've offered to pick up the first round. Do I offer to pick up the second round?
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Understanding the politics in a re-hire

I was asked by someone, who was a long-time inside contractor, to give them advice on how to be re-hired. They left on certain terms, being cut one day and having no contact with their former boss. ...
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How can I communicate to my boss that working with the new colleague is causing me stress?

A new colleague was hired at my department 3 months ago. He is quite disrespectful towards other employees since the first day, acts weird, has no experience and no actual work results, but is ...
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How can I refuse interviewing someone I know/am a friend of?

My question is related to Conflict of Interest at interview?, but from the other side of the interview process. Here are situations I have been in: I was asked to interview a person I knew. I was ...
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How to handle boss's invitation to become a Facebook Friend knowing that sometimes my Friends might post something that is not work-appropriate

I've had a pretty good working relationship with my boss for the past 1 1/2 years. He trusts me to deal with the problems he gives me, I give him the best quality work that I can, occasionally there ...
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Letter of thanks for an office invite by a potential employer

I have been invited to spend a day at a workplace after almost 7 grueling rounds of interviews, with an invite as this being the last phase to wrap up their decision. I am looking to draft a thank you ...
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A coworker rejected my romantic advances and I got her fired, how do I recover from this? [closed]

So this was a while back, when I was working as a Project Coordinator (I've been promoted now), a new PC joined our team and it was my job to train her. I was attracted to her and we talked and ...
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How can I encourage my Team Lead to give me the negative feedback directly before escalating management?

I have been working in an organization for 1 year and few months. After graduation it is my first job. After 1 year they gave me really good increment and recognized me as one of their really good ...
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Why should romantic relationships be disclosed to HR?

Why do some companies ask their employees to disclose romantic relationships with coworkers? Is the company somehow exposed to legal liability otherwise? My instinct is such relationships are none of ...
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7answers
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How do you tell a friend they are not qualified when asked to recommend them for a job in your company?

An old colleague asked me to recommend him for a job in my company. I'm hesitant because when we worked at the same company, he didn't have the best reputation. He constantly missed deadlines, never ...
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How To Handle An Ignored Request

Where I work, we have a system to open tickets for any issues or service requests one might have. In June, I created a ticket to have a phone installed in one of the rooms here. The person in ...
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Teammate ignores and excludes me

I'm very upset with the way my teammate has been behaving. I only have one teammate in my department and he's the first person I work with when I join the company. He was nice and helped me with ...
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6answers
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My boss is blocking my growth, should I bring it up in my 1-on-1 with his boss?

My boss is effectively blocking my growth in the company. He type casts me as a junior manager. Now that my project is gradually growing he wants me to move to a newer, smaller project whereas I see ...
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4answers
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How to best deal with a flirting co-worker?

There is a co-worker that is being way overly friendly with me. Nothing that would really be deemed unprofessional, and I am not offended in any way, but it is just that little notch beyond what a ...
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someone always give you hard time, what do you do? [closed]

I work in a small company, normally there are only 2 girls in the office (including me). My colleague (the other girl) has worked here for 3 years and I just started, half year or so. Other people ...
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2answers
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How can I stay focused and enjoy work when I am the only member on a team?

I am working solely on a project since few weeks, and there is no one currently in my team. I don't have any problems regards to work, and i have no competition or challenge too. I directly ...
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Coping with the world-weary environment at the office [closed]

I am among the first 3 employees of the company. My Seniors and peers (3 seniors and 2 peers) are good to work with. A few months back, new people were hired by my company. I was friendly with new ...
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Colleague keeps trying to set me up to fail and discredit me

I have been working at my company for around 9 months. It is small place and I am having problems with a woman I work with. I was brought in with a couple of other people to drastically expand the ...
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How do you break off a friendship with a coworker?

Reputation will stick with you more closely in a workplace setting. If I get the reputation as being difficult to work with then advancing or moving laterally in my organization will be extremely ...
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How to improve allocation of work for efficiency’s sake?

Often my manager will ask for a simple task to be completed ‘urgently’, and in the majority of these cases will ask for the team to divide the work amongst itself so that it gets done as quickly as ...
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Conflict of Interest at interview?

I just found out that someone I know will be interviewing me for a position. It is my brother's good friend's sister - so someone I am acquainted with but don't know too well. Should I let the company ...
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What do I do when coworkers are constantly asking to borrow money? [closed]

Several times over the past two years coworkers have asked to borrow money from me. I listen to the how, why, and what and I have loaned money out probably 6 or 7 times. The amounts have varied from ...
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How to deal with a talented but direct/unfriendly team member?

My game hobby project is starting grow rapidly lately, with over 10 members who are actively contributing. In the team are currently two pixel artists. There is a third artist who I worked with ...
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How do I resign when I know my employer will lose a big client when I leave?

I'm in a tricky position. I don't enjoy where I'm working and I've been offered another opportunity. Unfortunately, I know the current client that I'm consulting for isn't on good terms with my ...
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How can I stop my boss from interfering in my private life in a manner that preserves my relationship with my boss?

Since about a year and a half ago I have been in a relationship with someone who is an ex colleague. At first as it was private life, I only my close friends at work. Eventually my boss came to know ...
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How to deal with a colleague who mocks me?

A member of the team I work with is guy, who considers himself "super-smart". The guy makes snide remarks to me for no specific reason. I have not previously had such problems with others, so I can't ...
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How to handle awkward relationship romance in a team?

My team has an awkward situation. Two of the team have been caught in various stages of undress in the stairwell and they disappear regularly. Job performance has taken a hit and both parties have ...
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What information/guarantees should I get from a company in financial difficulty?

My current employer has been running in to financial difficulties and has fallen behind on salary for a month at times. We were not given a lot of information on what the cause of the financial ...
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How can I minimise the damage to my career when giving notice to leave a bad work environment?

I am working for a small software company, located in India, for the last 2+ years and the company is managed by a single person, so he can change the policy at any time without any notice. Recently ...
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5answers
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How to deal with a coworker that told you about the position and now feels he/she owns you?

I am currently working on a company I found through a compatriot who is currently my coworker, and I get the feeling that he is acting as if he owned me because he told me about the position the ...
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How to build a relationship with a remote team?

I am working as a UI developer in India for an MNC. Previously I worked as a developer in another organization. There are no issues with UI development or back-end programming. I really enjoyed both ...
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Employee Poaching

A competitor has been stealing employees from my company. We are partners, but we have recently undergone a rough patch while they are growing massively. About 8 of our former employees now work ...
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Working with an incompatible project leader

I am working in IT industry as a Sr developer. Recently there has been a change in my project and my project lead has been changed and now I am to report and work with this new lead. During last few ...
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Suggestions for building relationships as a remote office worker?

I've started working remotely for a company a few timezones away. I'm not the most social person to begin with, but now that I can't even say "hi" in the hall, How can I help remind people I exist? ...
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Do you refer to someone you know by their professional title in an inverview?

I have an interview coming up. I have an MS and one of my friends from the program at the same time as me recently got his PhD. He is in what would be a managerial role were I hired. We knew each ...
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How to dismiss allegations of relationships

According to this Workplace.SE post, romantic relationships with co-workers/subordinates are discouraged due to perhaps the suspicion of unprofessional behavior. However, a co-worker (who is female) ...
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How to deal with a colleague who doesn't want to collaborate?

I've described this problem in the letter to my boss. I have a problem with N. This is my 3rd job and I've never experienced this kind of communication problem before. Our workflow assumes ...
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Why are romantic relationships with someone who works under you discouraged?

I run a small company and am wondering what the consequences are of starting up a romantic relationship with one of my employees, and how it will affect my business and relationship with other ...
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How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my wife?

I'm the owner of a business with about 30-40 employees. Recently, I found out that one of my employees has been having an affair with my wife. The employee has worked for me for 4 years. I felt like I ...
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How do I fix my reputation with a client when I fell through for a project?

So I've run into this predicament. I over-loaded myself with work and not enough time. Then, I became ill a couple of times which set everything back even more. Long story short, I had a communication ...
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How can I be assertive without being rude or offensive?

I consider myself a confident person in the workplace. Even though I do not consider myself an expert in my field, I really like discussing at the same level with experts in my job. But when I'm ...
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How to meet former boss with who I have good relationship while I am in trouble?

I have a good work relationship with my former boss and who is now one of the influential person in higher management. Once I was in trouble at work when I was in another work location and he helped ...
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How to deal with a team in which one of the members doesn't accept critique?

I'm currently working in a team where one of the members doesn't accept critique. Being from a high-rated school and considering himself an elite, this person doesn't like to be contradicted nor ...
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Why is it considered inappropriate to treat contractors the same as corporate associates?

HR and management have said things along the lines of "We aren't supposed to treat contractors like they're employees." Why is that the case? What benefit does the business gain by maintaining that ...
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How can you deal with receiving no job training without becoming a pest?

I have been in a situation before where I was essentially thrown into a job position with no training whatsoever. It was very much a "sink or swim" environment where I was expected to become ...
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How can you handle an office romance that has ended?

In the workplace, office romance is discouraged. However, it is one of the prime places in adulthood that relationships begin. What is the appropriate action to take when a serious or long-term ...
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Severing the relationship with a recruiter

On the heels of the double-presentation question, I'm curious about the best way to sever ties with a recruiter who has represented me in the past. Let's say I was presented by this recruiter to a ...
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How can I restore a work relationship?

When I joined the company my co-worker was very nice; he taught me a lot of things, always paid attention to my questions and he really tried to help the most he could. However, as time passed and I ...
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How to deal with a “sensitive” employee [closed]

We have a new programmer starting on Monday (yay!). Both HR and the MD have raised concerns that he came off in the interview as both sensitive and very blunt. We have a young office and most people ...