Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.

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No bonuses or promotion, but when I leave I am met with hostility. Why? [closed]

Since I moved to more senior technical positions a few years ago, I observed a pattern. After the first year or so, my employer does not see me worth of higher pay or responsibility, but he will be ...
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How can ask professional for forwarding my e-mail to person who is responsible for purchases? [closed]

I try to expand my distribution network. I have big database with potential companies. For some of them I know who is responsible for purchases but for most of them I have just e-mail of sales ...
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Can an employee be forced to go home [closed]

Can a shift manager send an employee home because the employee told the manager he was not following company policy?
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How to refresh respect for colleague [closed]

How would one proceed to restart a relationship of respect with a fellow colleague with the below characteristics considering the absolute requirement to work together for the foreseeable future. ...
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My co-worker left without me [closed]

Earlier today me and my coworker (whom I considered my supervisor as I'm relatively new to this workplace) went to attain a seminar related to our work. We sat separately as she came to the place ...
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Convincing an officemate to keep the office door closed

The office I'm in is shared by four people. During the winter, the room tends to feel very cold, even when I'm wearing a sweater - one of my office mates even wears a coat inside the office. A couple ...
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How can I mitigate the negative effects of refusing my manager's request to be complicit in a crime?

I am a junior software developer, and my colleague, a senior software developer, is transitioning from a work visa to permanent residency. There will be a gap in between the work visa expiring and the ...
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Can a person have valid reasons to be angry for people using different gender toilet? [closed]

More specifically to my company's case, is a woman rightful to feel outraged if a man uses the toilet designated for women? I am asking this out of curiosity after a few talks about the matter in my ...
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How to deal with colleague that uses you as a crutch to complete their tasks?

I have this colleague, that when she joined our team, I could clearly tell that she was having a hard time picking up the speed (She taught programming before, but never actually coded anything). So I ...
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Avoiding personal questions

What is the most polite way to drop a personal topic with a coworker? I'm fairly new to my job and I'd like to keep my personal life private. Not to seem rude or disrespectful, but I'd rather not talk ...
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How to deal with a workplace crush [closed]

I recently joined a new workplace and a colleague there reminds me of an old lover, because of his looks like and similarities in cultural origin. The colleague has a girlfriend. He is very reserved, ...
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Who is at fault if drink on desktop ruins electronics? [closed]

My colleague came to me and, while we were talking about a project, he accidentally spilt my 1.5l mineral water directly on my two personal cell phones and some papers. Not a big deal, I jokingly say ...
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What are the professional boundaries of the relationship with your line manager?

I am in a positive relationship with my manager, however I wonder what the boundaries should be. What topics should be discussed? Holidays? Family? Or just work? And how much trust should be allowed? ...
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Boss in relationship with a direct report who is a good friend of mine as well

I could use some feedback on this one. My boss (began about 6 months ago, and I have been in my position for 3 years) is a charismatic guy, and we got along well. A position opened up that my former ...
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Risks involved in fraternizing with subordinate, and how to manage them? [duplicate]

Let's get this out of the way first: sensibility says the answer is going to be "the safest option is to not let it happen in the first place". I'm fully aware, and already considering that as an ...
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How to deal with a peer who gives unnecessary feedback?

I put my foot in my mouth at work and said something insensitive to a colleague of mine. Since then I have: Had a one-to-one with my colleague that I upset where I apologised and we patched things ...
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My boss is not polite with me. What should I do?

The last few weeks, I had a few opportunities to notice that my new boss is not particularly polite towards me in a context of the etiquette of the country I live in (France¹; my boss is French—born ...
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Etiquette when writing a recommendation for a manager on LinkedIn?

Recently one of my old managers told me he is leaving the company. He taught me a lot of things during my time here and I really wanted to give him a recommendation on his Linkedin (even if it might ...
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Is it appropriate to give personal birthday gift to a coworker at a new job?

I'm male and I'm only two months into a new job. There is one colleague in another department, a woman, who I don't currently work with (and, sometimes, don't even meet in the office during the day), ...
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How to deal with office bickering as someone not directly affected? (But indirectly affected due to a negative office aura)

So there's two people, let's call them Fred and George, who are picking on one of our officemates - let's call him Ron. To be fair, Ron does have some habits that are quite annoying for some people, ...
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Advice resolving conflicts with Colleague?

I need help figuring out the most responsible action I should proceed with for my current situation. We were done with work and just passing time because we weren't allowed to leave for another 30 ...
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How to navigate turf-protecting but friendly colleague?

I have a colleague who I really like, and he's taking a bit of time to help me with a project that requires access to an application that he, by chance, is the only one with administrative access to. ...
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Customer (small non-profit social services organization) doesn't like the term “business logic”

I've been hired to do contract programming work for a small non-profit social services organization. In the initial meeting, I used the phrase "business logic" and my contact at the non-profit became ...
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Maintaining relationships with coworkers when working in a politically unpopular department

I currently work in IT Compliance / Audit department at my company that operates in the software engineering industry. The company is large and multi - national, with many thousands of employees. My ...
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Coworker trying to play matchmaker. How to politely and professionally defuse?

I am a recently hired young lady, and a coworker of mine is a young man a few years older than me. We sit relatively close by to each other in the office, close enough to turn around and have a ...
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When should I disclose an ongoing relationship with someone who is in a legal battle with my employer?

My girlfriend and I worked together for 2 years under the same boss. Her and his professional relationship started to go "south". In the end, it became unbearable for both and together with HR they ...
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How can I handle a co-worker who is infatuated with me but denies it?

I'm a female programmer. I work at a very small company on a small team with two other developers and a project manager. I befriended one of my coworkers and we hung out a few times outside of ...
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After my boss got transfered to a different section, said he misses me everyday-New development [closed]

I (female, 29) have worked with this boss (male, 45) for 1.5 years. He was very supportive, all the time. Recently he got transferred to a different section of my department. I needed some advice on a ...
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How to maintain social integration when your workload is substantially different than those around you

So, I was hired early this year. I got about 4-5 months of training on the product I'm QA'ing for, then I was moved out of manual QA into automation of tests in our application. At the moment, I'm ...
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What's the most appropriate way to introduce my boss to friends and family?

There is an upcoming social event organized by my employer where friends and family will be invited. The company is a fairly small company in the UK and I will inevitably need to introduce my family ...
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How to get intern to not stare at me during the day? [duplicate]

I work at a relatively small company (55 employees) and we are basically a bunch of guys developing software at our R&D sector. Recently, we hired a new intern to help with organizing a lot of ...
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What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one?

My coworker's father passed away. The following day, an employee from HR sent out an office-wide email with the obituary and viewing details with the coworker's permission, and started a fund for a ...
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Is there a way to NOT participate in office politics and still be successful?

The question pretty much speaks for itself. I am a hard worker, very productive, and usually the one everyone turns to when they have a problem. However, I work in a privately owned company, and ...
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How can I function with a manager who has a very different working style to me? [closed]

I am the only software developer in a company with about 100 employees, and my immediate boss is a senior manager. I started working there 3.5 months ago and there is a 6 month probation period. My ...
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How to have a relationship with someone at the office?

I know it's frowned upon, but if you end up in a personal relationship with someone at the office, what's the most professional way to go forward? Should you declare it with your managers? What ...
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I'm swamped at work and a colleague is slacking. Not sure if telling on him is professional [duplicate]

Title pretty much says it all. We work in pairs here at my company, and my peer has just quit, leaving me all alone. I'm swamped right now, having to work my part and my former peer's. There is an ...
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Significant difference of opinion between me (founder and head) and coworker (lead manager and owns 5% of company)

I want to file a patent on an algorithm / process which is used in a computer application developed by my company. The process isn't used in any large computer applications yet (I know that I'm ...
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How to determine if company is too “broken” to fix problems? [duplicate]

I accepted an IT job at a well-known company in the media industry. The company itself is doing well financially, mostly due to acquisitions and programming decisions. The business is supposed to ...
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Being called by a different firstname [duplicate]

I have a firstname which I like, however I prefer to be called by a different firstname in my life (which isn't on my ID Card), is that possible ? is there a way to announce it nicely to other people ...
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As an intern, how do I deal with a supervisor who's not always there?

I'm working as an intern in a software development role. My supervisor is working on systems or something similar, and is always busy. I never get to really see them. I mainly report my progress using ...
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Supervisor paid for my food, what's the proper way to express my appreciation?

I'm doing an internship in one of the Canadian government organization. Recently my supervisor got promoted, so our division(6 people) went out to a fancy restaurant to celebrity his promotion. ...
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Is creating a company library a good way to improve the working environment?

Many things, from science, to markets and products, are evolving fast these days. After a person gets her degree, chances are that their pace of learning slows down, at least in the fields outside ...
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How appropriate it would be to give a gift card to an ex coworker who helped me with references?

One of my ex co workers recently helped me with glowing references, so I have been thinking to give him a gift card. Not a big one but just a small one. Would it be right to do that?
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How to keep a good relationship with your colleague when managment helped you by making a decision that hurt them?

Firstly, I'd like to maintain a good relationship with every colleague. I work in a supermarket that is open from 7 - 22 everyday of the year. I have quite a lot of colleagues so when somebody isn't ...
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How can I stop being badgered for “leaving early” without hurting my co-worker relationships?

I currently work in a corporate environment where the majority of the company works typical hours of 8:30 AM - 5 PM. Many employees vary work hours based on personal obligations, however often ...
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Reporting to a friend

I am considering a position where I would be reporting to a close friend. Originally we were colleagues at different companies but in the same field, and now we have become close. (In this situation ...
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Interviewing with Other Companies a Week into Starting New Job [duplicate]

So I'm a new graduate who took months to find a new job. Recently I interviewed, and was very quickly hired, for a semi-decent job which I was more grateful for getting than anything. The work culture ...
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How to deal with jealousy after getting promoted?

I am part of a software development team in a big corporation. The team consists of the manager, several developers and one senior developer. The senior developer position recently became vacant and ...
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What to ask about at the next job interview after a bad maternity leave experience? [closed]

If you've seen my previous posts I had a very bad experience coming back from maternity leave. I want to have another baby in the future and I'm wandering what might be some sneaky questions to ask ...
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Resign (look for another job) or clear the air after bad mat leave return [closed]

I started working at my company right after university. I have a degree in math and physics and a diploma in computer programming. I work as a game developer. They found me on LinkedIn and approached ...