Questions about talking to co-workers about non-work related materials. This can be talking on breaks, going to lunch or activities outside of working hours.

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How can a young college graduate deal with large age gaps in the office? [on hold]

I recently graduated from college and was able to get a job not too long after; I've been at work for 3 months so far at an underwriting firm as a in-house IT/Excel help desk who helps with odd jobs ...
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How to handle awkward conversation with co-worker in gym changing room who is naked

I was at the gym (non work affiliated if it makes a difference) last week and ran into a co worker in the changing rooms. This would have been fine except she had just walked out of the shower ...
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How do I stop my co-workers from teasing me with another co-worker?

I have been working for more than 3 years now with my co-worker and people have been teasing us here and there and it doesn't make me happy, at all. Things have gone awkward to the point where I can't ...
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How can I drop a polite hint to a coworker to stop pestering me with daily questions about my lunch?

I have a coworker who, without fail, asks me the same set of small talk lunch-related questions. Every. Single. Day. For example: (As I'm heading out the door) Him: Where you goin?! Me (usually ...
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how can I cancel my Involvement in a company football competition in order to go to a industry talk/event [closed]

Tomorrow there is a company football team going to partake in the first part of an industry football competition. I only started this job recently so I put my name forward to be on the team just for ...
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Invited for a New Year party, should I go? [closed]

I have been invited to a New Year party at a company where I have accepted a role, but as yet haven't joined. My joining date is more than 10 days after New Year. I am very happy that they have ...
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Is it acceptable to politely decline to speak about one's personal life?

I've seen this answer, where the person says that one might present oneself poorly if they hide their personal lives from their co-workers. In-spite of that, I believe that revealing information ...
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A colleague won't tell me her name preference?

I have a colleague, who has been called by 2 different names. Her middle name was not what I was used to, but recently another colleague referred to her by her middle name. When I asked said collegue ...
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How to handle when no one talks with you? [duplicate]

I have a question probably a repeated situation faced by most of the people. I find socializing very difficult as I always feel what others think about me. Because of that, I stay silent all the time ...
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Adjusting to a team with conflicting socialisation preferences for a group dinner

I started a new job half a year ago. I am very satisfied, there's just one thing. The team is pretty outgoing and they like to go out for a dinner together once or twice a month. I don't mind that, ...
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Deal with unsocial image [duplicate]

I have started my first job ever about 13 months ago in a web-dev company. I am an extremely shy person, at least when it comes to make the first approach, and I often over-think too much social ...
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How do I distance myself from a clique that's constantly mocking my colleagues?

There is a small group of people in the office who have formed a clique of sorts. They go out to eat together, constantly talk to or IM each other, have inside jokes, all sorts of fun stuff. When I ...
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How to maintain social integration when your workload is substantially different than those around you

So, I was hired early this year. I got about 4-5 months of training on the product I'm QA'ing for, then I was moved out of manual QA into automation of tests in our application. At the moment, I'm ...
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What's the most appropriate way to introduce my boss to friends and family?

There is an upcoming social event organized by my employer where friends and family will be invited. The company is a fairly small company in the UK and I will inevitably need to introduce my family ...
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Can my employer make me drink alcohol? [closed]

I work at a company with a rowdy atmosphere that includes pressure to drink alcohol. Multiple people at the company told me verbatim that I would even been judged negatively in terms of hiring ...
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Socializing as a poor performer

I am relatively new to my organization. For many reasons, I am not performing very well. I am behind on my projects, and although I feel that in my few-month tenure, I have produced decent work under ...
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What are some steps I can take to overcome social anxiety while working?

I recently started working in a midsize company as a software development intern. I really like the company and I really like the work. The trouble I have is building relationships with people in ...
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How to talk slower in a energetic way? [closed]

Last few weeks I've been going out talking to random people at different speech speeds. After the talk I asked them to be brutally honest with me -- and tell me what their first impression was of me. ...
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How do I explain to my boss I don't feel like part of the team outside of work?

So recently, I was sitting with a couple co-workers and my boss and one of my co-workers made a remark to my boss about being excited for a party (a brewery tour) that my boss had invited him too. My ...
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New team commonly goes for a drink on Friday lunchtime - could attending this event negatively effect me?

I have recently moved to a new team in my company and they often go out for a drink during lunch hour on a Friday. It's only a single drink, but I'm not sure what the rules are regarding this. In ...
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What do you do/say to someone who has been off work because they lost someone close?

If you have a colleague or boss who is off work because a significant person (wife/husband/child/parent/grandparent) in their life died, what is the workplace norm for communication? Should you ...
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Smalltalk with support when waiting for a system to restart

I've been on the line with support while a system is rebooting. The both of us had to wait for 10 minutes. I was wondering what appropriate smalltalk one could engage in while waiting? We're both ...
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Tips on getting people not to talk about work during work lunches or gatherings

It is interesting to find that many social events that are organized by managers or teams for the purpose of getting employees to socialize outside of work hours (e.g. lunchtime or after work events) ...
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How should I handle colleagues with very different work ethic?

I prefer to work intensively for eight hours with complete focus, then leave relax in the evenings - work hard, play hard. My colleagues on the other hand, prefer to be in the office for 10-12 hours ...
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Can non contributors attend Pot Luck lunches [closed]

We are having a Pot Luck lunch with people bringing in food. I did not bring any food. But our office assistant has emailed everyone saying lunch will start promptly at Noon. What is the usual ...
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Is not attending the company holiday party damaging to my job and/or my career?

Many companies I've worked for host company functions like a holiday party. I understand that these are suppose to serve as a bit of a morale booster and a thank you from the company to the employees. ...
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Responding to “Why are you the best person for this job” type questions

Note: In somewhat the same vein as this question. I recently landed a new job, but I was asked during the interview "Why do you think you're the best person for the job?" and they mentioned that this ...
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How to get across on LinkedIn that I absolutely enjoy, and am committed to, my company? [closed]

I work in a non-client-facing role and only occasionally interact with suppliers/vendors and consultants. Generally I feel that my professional network is very small and thus I want to get to know ...
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How can I professionally refuse the publication of group photos on social networks?

In my scientific research group, my professor tries to create a very social atmosphere between each of our members. For example, the group goes on a yearly retreat or meets up in order to watch big ...
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Is there any way to appear sociable at a work social event without drinking?

I generally steer clear of sugary junk food such as beer, fruit juices, etc. I'm not really a fan of drinking alcohol either, as I like my sleep. So when I go out with a bunch of work colleagues and ...
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Is it generally unacceptable to become close friends with colleagues?

I'm a young graduate fresh out of university just under a year ago. I went to an international school in my youth and did not establish many friendships during university due to the girlfriend in ...
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How can I not come across as uninterested or rude during an interview?

I've been told by many people (including my former boss) that I look unhappy or upset about something. This is almost always untrue when people point this out. I attribute this mostly to my anxiety. ...
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How can I manage an in-person job interview when I have social anxiety?

So far I have been chatting with a potential employer over email. She will eventually ask to meet in person. The problem is that I am very nervous when around other people and thus I reckon the way ...
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How to react when superiors make fun of junior employees during informal/social events?

I am a junior manager (promoted from within) and recently started being invited to some social and informal events with senior management. It is good to know that I am getting closer to their inner ...
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When taking clients out for drinks, how to behave when I cannot drink?

I will be spending more and more time with clients in the near future and we are encouraged to regularly socialize with and entertain them, especially by taking them out for drinks. I wonder whether ...
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How can I decline business-lunch invitations due to strict dietary restrictions?

I don't eat out at restaurants, I'm a strict vegetarian, and it's part of my faith. However, recently my manager invited me and other colleagues to a lunch. I don't want to be disrespectful and say ...
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After quiting my job, can an employer tell me I can't be friends with the family of a client? [closed]

I am in doubt if my former employer can really keeping me from staying in contact with a patient that I took care of when I worked for them. Both the patient family and myself really want to stay in ...
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Should we ban facebook or any other social network at workplace?

In our company we do not bother much about people using social networks such as Facebook. But I am realizing that people are misusing this now. They are engaged in it more than the real job for which ...
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When is it appropriate to bring a Significant Other to an office function?

There are some events such as drinks in the office after work, where it is clearly inappropriate to bring a significant other, but others such as holiday parties where it is perfectly acceptable. I ...
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Disagreeing with boss over personal topics when socializing

Is it bad practice to disagree with a boss on personal opinions, in the context of talking about things for fun? For example, if a boss is talking about how much corruption is in the Catholic Church ...
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Suggestions for building relationships as a remote office worker?

I've started working remotely for a company a few timezones away. I'm not the most social person to begin with, but now that I can't even say "hi" in the hall, How can I help remind people I exist? ...
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Who to invite to a team event?

I have an opportunity to organise a social outing for my project team. Other than the immediate members of the team, would it be appropriate to invite other team members that are not part of the core ...
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How much humor should I display in an interview?

In an interview, there is often this icy nervousness. Would it be appropriate to make a comment about something mundane, like the coffeeshop nearby, etc? Just to break the ice? How much humor can I ...
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What jobs/workplace environments are more conducive to social interaction?

Some programmers are not social individuals and are happy at their terminal all day. Others are more social. I have seen claims that "The happiest Americans report 7-8 hours of social interaction a ...
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What are some guidelines for appropriate social drinking in a work-related context?

Everyone or nearly everyone has at some point an occasion to drink either at work as part of a work function or with a group of friends from work. What are some ways to help avoid the pitfalls of ...