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Is it unethical to notify a company about an employee who is seeking employment elsewhere?

We recently received a call from one of our vendors. They wanted to let us know that one of our current employees had applied for a job opening at their company. Was it unethical for the vendor to ...
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Team member falling asleep: who to talk to first as an external consultant?

So, here's the situation: In our project team, there are some smaller subteams. We're with two in ours: my colleague who's an employee me, an external consultant, also 'team lead' responsible for ...
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Is it really inappropriate to ask someone out in the workplace? [closed]

A bit silly but I may have a small crush for an HR advisor in my company. The company is large and the culture is quite formal. However, we have the tradition of sending emails to people when we ...
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How to deal with coworkers holding something private and not work related against you?

I told my boss I was pregnant at 4 months, but not my other coworkers until about 6.5 - 7 months. In my country, it's customary to wait past the 3 month stage. I now have a few issues to deal with: ...
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How to deal with minor cubicle vandalism

Vandalism is a strong word, but I cannot think of a better one. I work in an office of approximately 100 engineers, where a majority of which come from one of two prominent universities. These ...
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Boss accepts but then ignores company policy proposed by employees

I am working in a small software company. We are quite small with only 3-4 full time developers. I started working there as a student assistant roughly 8 years ago and started working full time after ...
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Rolling my own tobacco at office [closed]

I would like to know what do you guys think about rolling tobacco at work. Background: I work in a office in São Paulo - Brazil. People here in Brazil do not have the habit to roll their own tobacco. ...
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How can I determine if my manager is harassing me? [closed]

My manager often walks up to my desk when I'm quietly working and says insulting things to me such as: How is your baby? Do you even know? Do you care? Why did you have a baby anyways? In my ...
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Should I report this workplace thievery?

For the last 6 months, some of my coworkers and I have noticed our tools have been missing out of our locked lockers. These are expensive construction tools that are our livelihood. I hid a motion ...
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Ask My boss whether I can use the office over the weekend?

I would like to receive feedback on whether I should ask my employer if I can use the office over the weekend. Context includes that this is a very small engineering office of about 5 employees. My ...
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How best to handle unfair change in responsibility by manager? [closed]

I was hired for a project that was in very bad shape. I worked hard and it's about to be complete. I received lots of praise from peers, and went to client demos. Because of my visibility, my manager, ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer? [closed]

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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How to document ongoing harassment in a professional way? [closed]

While writing detailed documentation about harassment I'm experiencing, what's the best way to keep it professional without losing its emphasis? For example, my manager called me on Skype and said "I ...
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Are discussions about penetration testing safe for the workplace?

I have some staff members that have to perform penetration testing. The odd thing about my staff is that I have engineers in locations but there are often just 1-2 per location and they all pretty ...
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How to encourage my coworker to speak one at a time during discussion?

I am a team leader and I have several members, most of the time when I have something to discuss to my members they tend to speak while I'm speaking and because of that our discussion becomes long. ...
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How to objectively counter “You are the first one to complain about that.”?

I've been facing this situation for some time where our office's management keep choosing the cheapest option whenever they have to pay for anything related to our work environment or company travels. ...
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Should I create a new e-mail if my current one contains an online nickname? [duplicate]

I use a nickname that makes me identifiable anywhere on the internet. As neither Stack Overflow, nor most of the SE sites are related to my "internet persona", I decided not to register with that name ...
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Inappropriate comments by coworkers about new hire

Background: I work for a small software company, about 40 employees. My workplace is very male-dominated; only two employees outside of HR are female. I might as well mention that I'm a white male. ...
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How to quit a job after being there a week for a better offer [duplicate]

I was unemployed for about a month and applied to many places. Finally I landed a job and was told to start immediately. The pay is much less than what i was earning before and it is much more work. ...
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How to handle inappropriate behaviour of your manager

I've been working in a small IT company (about 20 employees) for a few months. Last night (Friday) we had the Christmas company dinner, all employees together. After the dinner the manager and some ...
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Dealing with collegue who tries to steal projects

I am working in a team that supports operation. The team is awesome but when I get a project a guy wants it and start digging nose into it until he makes it his through contacts with vendor and ...
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My manager is kind of blaming and threatening me [closed]

This is a continuation from my previous post: I am leaving soon for a new opportunity. Should I mention my co-worker's deficiency to our manager as I leave? A little background (for those of you ...
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Is it illegal to set up a hidden camera in your office being the general manager? [closed]

I'm a general manager in a pub. We have CCTV everywhere public, but there are no cameras in the cellar or stock room downstairs. Is it legal for me to set up my own camera hidden in my office the pub? ...
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Future boss placed me in a business meeting under a pretense before my start date, then was disappointed I didn't meet his expectations.

Background- I'm an architect and very outgoing, but got tired of the same old same old with architecture firms. I picked up a new Architectural Sales job in brooklyn and I will be transfering over ...
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Relocating for a job, new boss is in town and wants me to take off work to meet him

I am relocating from Chicago to Brooklyn for a new job. I'm still currently employed in Chicago and won't be moving for another month. My new boss from Brooklyn is in Chicago for a week and wants to ...
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What is the appropriate escalation process to a mistake like this? [closed]

I'm an (legitimate, I hasten to add) observer to a recent situation, and I'd like to take a bit of another look at it. Background Employee A has been working on a small technical advice note for ...
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Less than 48 hours to cancel interview

I am invited to attend interview (which I asked for reschedule from Monday to this Friday and it is 46 hours to go from my current time) by company B. If I cancel the interview because the reason of ...
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How can I ask to switch teams?

The company I'm working for is restructuring and new teams has been built. Now after I received information to which team I will belong, I feel there is another team, where my skills will be more in ...
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How can I explain a religious conflict regarding working with women?

I started with my US employer over a year ago, and explained that because of my religious beliefs, I do not want to work with women. We are a small office with 20 male employees. My old boss quit ...
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A co-worker secretly takes photos of me at work

I have recently joined an IT firm as a programmer, after a career in painting didn't look so promising. The office that I work in, is like any other force, like one of those Google offices; desks of ...
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How do I professionally tell the interviewer that I am extremely nervous to do what he's asking me to do?

First, I must add here that I have been working as a software engineer for six years now and haven't experienced anything like this ever before. I applied for a senior software engineering job at a ...
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How to react to this situation? [closed]

I am in condition that I and my colleague have some deadline. When I asked him which task he wanted to do (task A or B), he answered he wanted to do task B. Task A is on deadline two days from today ...
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Getting blamed for “not communicating” by manager to cover his lack of coordination/follow-thru [closed]

So I work for a small software company, where there are about 8-10 "programmers" ...as they call us. This company started in the 80s, thus a rift has developed and there is this "Old Guard" and "New ...
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Told employer I wasn't feeling well and made the mistake of answering truthfully [closed]

I like my job and I like my coworkers, but today my mental illness was getting the best of me. So after some deliberation and my attempts to bring it under control on my lunch, I finally decided to ...
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Coworker's criminal conviction and current behavior make me uncomfortable

I work at some IT firm and recently, they have hired a "former" criminal (as a programmer) who was considered to be a possible suspect of two rape cases, and has spent some years in a jail for ...
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Can my employer force me to fix employees' personal computers?

I run an IT department at a mid-size retailer with 1000 employees. Throughout my career, there have been a many instances where people have brought in their personal equipment from home (phones, PCs, ...
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Dealing with over smart colleague [duplicate]

I work with a person who is as same position as me but is 30 years older. I saw him being fancy with other colleagues on his second day. He somehow knows less but talks more. He has been acting ...
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My staff is pressuring me to fire a talented employee [closed]

I hired a very talented employee a month ago part-time and this has triggered a stir ever since. The employee is talented, creative, innovative, courteous, generous and very intelligent. He was very ...
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How to deal with a manager who swears and yells at me?

At times we have to work together, there is a fair amount of brainstorming and coding involved. They have a habit of swearing(real bad words in native language) on the work they do. Although I have ...
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Unnecessary comment my boss made [closed]

Yesterday I returned from a Leave of Absence (LOA). My boss said to me that we were talking about the idea of being off of work for 2 months, and how nice it would be to be able to do that. She said ...
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Is it rude to eat/drink in front of a colleague who is fasting during Ramadan?

I often feel hungry and have snacks at my desk. Today, I realized that Ramadan has begun and my colleague who sits beside me is fasting. So I quietly kept my snacks back. I felt it might seem rude and ...
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Should I report a violation of company workplace policy if the manager already knows about it but do nothing? [duplicate]

A colleague in the same team spends most of his time (if not all) conducting private business activities through company’s electronic communication systems or his own cell phone during regular working ...
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Asking company for pick-up service

I am a student and recently completed an internship at a big software company in Germany. Last week I injured myself badly and finding it difficult to walk. I have my presentation next week at the ...
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Lost my manager's pendrive - what to do?

I've recently been to a presentation in a client's office which is located in another city. My manager handed me his laptop, modem and pendrive for the presentation. It was on the last day of the week ...
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As a Brit working in America, how can I get my American colleagues to stop mocking my accent/spelling?

I am not a person of colour and I do not pretend to understand the struggle of those who endure racial discrimination, prejudice and persecution based on their race or ethnic background. However, ...
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What kind of verification can be done for someone out “Sick” - Is there a way to confirm they aren't working somewhere else? [closed]

What kind of verification can be done for someone out "sick." Is there a way to confirm they aren't working somewhere else? I have an employee who has used up all of their sick/vacation leave. Then ...
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How to teach a recruitment agency or a recruiter a very hard lesson in a professional way?

I'm a recent graduate in CS living in Germany and now I'm getting calls from recruiters. Today, I got a call from a recruiter from the UK and I was really pissed of. The guy was completely impolite ...
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Xenophobic email sent by a senior colleague. What's an appropriate reaction?

A friend of mine has been written off sick and her absence has prompted a senior colleague (not her boss, but someone significantly more senior than she is) to send her the following very bizarre ...
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How to deal with a demanding and moody employee

One of my employees in a tech startup is behaving erratically. We are a small team of about a dozen people working our asses off for launching our apps. Initially he was OK, working and trying to ...
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Personal problems between employees

We are a technology startup, the problem i am facing is that my colleague(same designation as mine) Manager A and a member of his team (Coder A) have become incompatible.. it started out with ...