346
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18answers
72k views

How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my wife?

I'm the owner of a business with about 30-40 employees. Recently, I found out that one of my employees has been having an affair with my wife. The employee has worked for me for 4 years. I felt like I ...
259
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19answers
68k views

Is it rude to leave an interview early if you have already made your decision?

A friend of mine went on an interview recently for a software developer position at a well known company. It was a senior position, and he had very relevant business experience in the industry. I ...
220
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18answers
53k views

What is a 'friendly' way to let managers know that having good developers is a privilege?

I work for a small company, where we recently had a change of managers. The new manager has no experience managing developers, and the old manager has moved into a development role to fill in gaps ...
173
votes
19answers
58k views

How can I overcome “years of experience” requirements when applying to positions?

Having just been rejected as a candidate for a job because I do not show the requisite number of years experience, I have some questions about how "years of experience" is interpreted by hiring ...
149
votes
4answers
12k views

What should I do when my dream company is interested in me before my skills are developed?

There is a company I adore and working there would be my dream job. My plan was to continue working on my programming skills (which are currently underdeveloped) and then start contributing to this ...
116
votes
11answers
10k views

I worked for a company affiliated with a very publicly failed project. Should I take it off my resume?

I worked briefly for a company that had a recent highly publicized failed government project (I'm sure you can probably guess). While I did not work on that particular project, I think all the bad ...
113
votes
9answers
11k views

How do you decide when to go home for the day?

As a salaried software developer, I've worked in a few environments where I've been told "we don't have 9-5 hours here, we just expect you to get your work done". Which sounds idealistic, except that ...
112
votes
14answers
7k views

How can I tell people to get to the point?

I've recently come to a work place where people use a lot of useless business lingo and generally inflate communications with long unproductive fluff. I frequently find myself nodding and hoping they ...
111
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9answers
20k views

Team members spending too much time on Stack Overflow

Almost 8 months ago, I introduced encouraged my team members to follow Stack Overflow so that they can read questions, help others, and build their skills. But now this has gotten out of hand. I have ...
107
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13answers
11k views

How can I prepare for getting hit by a bus?

As a member of small teams, I had significant responsibility. Whether driving progress by organizing meetings or maintaining/creating/understanding a large percentage of specific technical ...
105
votes
4answers
15k views

How can I determine a reasonable salary to ask for?

I'm looking for a comprehensive answer to this question, not short answers that just tell me one piece of the equation. The ideal answer should include: How can I determine the average salary rate ...
103
votes
11answers
26k views

Project Manager asks for complete 100% confidence everytime committing code

I've got an ongoing relationship with a long term business partner as a consultant where his role is project manager (task manager + direction), and my role is a contracted developer. He has a ...
103
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13answers
12k views

Should I list skills on my résumé if I have no interest in using them again?

I’m a software developer and over the course of my (short) career I’ve gained experience with a whole bunch of programming languages, libraries, frameworks, applications, and concepts. Taken together ...
97
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9answers
18k views

Is it ethical to read programming books on the clock?

I have an issue that hasn't ever surfaced as a problem, but it's a question that's been bugging me internally a little bit for the last several years. I've worked at a few different places where they ...
95
votes
10answers
7k views

Could asking questions online damage my professional reputation?

I like to post quite a lot of questions online, on Stack Exchange and other locations such as GitHub. Despite my best efforts to research before asking and to ask good questions, sometimes I feel that ...
92
votes
4answers
10k views

Why do companies not want to hire over qualified people?

I've heard stories of how people looking for jobs have been turned down by companies because they are over-qualified, even when they are willing to take a (sometime substantial) pay-cut. Why do ...
88
votes
11answers
25k views

How can I respond to “Why shouldn't we hire you?”

Can someone please explain what the employer wants to get from the question, "Why shouldn't we hire you?" What type of answers are generally acceptable responses to this question?
87
votes
16answers
32k views

How can I ask my interviewers for feedback following an interview?

Recently, I had an interview with Amazon. At first, things went smoothly and well. After two interviews, they decided not to move forward with the process. I'm the type of person who wants to ...
86
votes
17answers
22k views

How can I encourage a culture of punctuality in a software company?

As a new technical lead in a new company, what are some additional strategies to employ to change the culture of the development team so that people show up at the time that I've requested? TLDR: My ...
84
votes
7answers
15k views

How do you tell a friend they are not qualified when asked to recommend them for a job in your company?

An old colleague asked me to recommend him for a job in my company. I'm hesitant because when we worked at the same company, he didn't have the best reputation. He constantly missed deadlines, never ...
81
votes
6answers
7k views

Why is it important to gain “visibility” in the workplace?

My boss has recently been pushing me to take up stuff and try to gain visibility across the organization. I just do not understand the idea behind this. Why is it important to gain visibility? If I ...
78
votes
7answers
22k views

Should I tell my boss I'm leaving because of them?

I'm not sure that any good could come from this. But it seems false to pretend I'm leaving for other reasons. How should I handle this?
78
votes
10answers
13k views

Is it ethical to write answers to work-relevant Stack Exchange questions on the clock? [closed]

First off, this is intended to be an extension to the question "Is it ethical to read programming books on the clock?". I do realize the irony of asking this on Stack Exchange itself, but hey, I'm not ...
78
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6answers
50k views

Is it considered rude to turn down a job after initially accepting it?

Earlier today, I was offered a position which I accepted. It is supposed to start in about a month. I feel like I've made a huge mistake. Can I do anything about it without coming off as ...
77
votes
7answers
18k views

A coworker beat me to resignation. How can I resign in a professional manner?

I began work at a medium-sized startup that neglected to inform me of their impending acquisition. It is possible that it had to be kept secret due to legal reasons, but the fact of the matter is I ...
77
votes
11answers
9k views

Why is there a stigma in corporations against revealing hourly rates and salaries? Anyone implement “transparent salaries” policy?

I always wondered about the stigma against revealing hourly rates and salaries to coworkers. I just started a company and we made a "transparent salary" policy where everyone knows exactly how much ...
76
votes
8answers
5k views

How can I respond to an employee who objects to working on certain projects on ethical grounds?

My company does services for various clients. We recently were offered a contract to perform these services for a guy in the city who does predictions, tarot, numerology and the like for people. He ...
75
votes
10answers
12k views

Is it appropriate to ask about a company's dress code during an interview?

Many people are dissatisfied with their company's dress code. Seeing as this can be an important factor in job satisfaction is it appropriate to ask about the dress code during an interview? If ...
75
votes
8answers
14k views

How soon should you return to work after illness?

At the moment I'm off work sick. I imagine I might be well enough to go into work tomorrow, though not fully recovered. Should you be at work whenever you're physically well enough to do so, or ...
74
votes
7answers
7k views

How should I respond to an inappropriate question in a job interview?

In the United States, it is considered discriminatory to consider certain things about a candidate when hiring, unless that thing is actually relevant to that job. Specific to this question, a ...
74
votes
10answers
11k views

How can I discourage employees from working voluntary overtime?

I run a small company (5 salaried employees). We have recently expanded from 3 to 5 staff, and while we are comfortable financially, there is not much spare money available. However there is a lot of ...
74
votes
8answers
6k views

Does the first person to mention a number in a salary negotiation lose?

When talking about salary negotiation (or any negotiation), it's become somewhat conventional wisdom that "the first to give a number loses". Steve Hanov says so. So does Knocks.com. Is this true? ...
71
votes
14answers
16k views

Is it naive to tell my current employer that I'll be leaving, months in advance?

I'm relocating to another coast in 3 months. The move isn't job related, i.e. I don't have a job out there yet, but I'm committed, e.g. I have other reasons for going, and I've signed a lease on a ...
71
votes
10answers
15k views

Just got an initial job offer. How do I ask for more without any real justification?

I just got an initial programming job offer for $75k + benefits. It's an initial offer, so I feel like I should give a counter offer ($5k - $10k/year more) to avoid unnecessarily leaving any money on ...
60
votes
10answers
7k views

Asked “Why are you looking for a new position” Did I answer wrong?

Today during an interview I was asked why I'm looking for a new position. I gave the honest answer that I'm looking for new challenges, where I am just isn't challenging anymore. The interviewing ...
51
votes
12answers
17k views

Should I include a career objective on my resume?

These usually are overly vague and don't add much. Are there circumstance when these are worthwhile?
14
votes
6answers
2k views

How to deal with a manager who suppresses your ideas and suggestions and uses them for this personal benefit?

Recently my friend, a software developer, got into a situation while working at a giant software consultancy. He had a few suggestions about improving a software development process which he shared ...
11
votes
1answer
1k views

Why would they interview if they would never meet my minimum salary? [closed]

As is common these days, many job applications require you to list a minimum salary. I take that as the amount base salary I would need in order to meet my job level. I have a PhD degree in science, ...
11
votes
4answers
345 views

To what extent does “getting it in writing” matter for at-will employment agreements?

In evaluating job offers for start-ups and for firms that have different forms of compensation (equity, stock options, bonuses, etc.) it is often a thrown around phrase that you should "get it in ...
9
votes
5answers
1k views

Admitting financial status in interviews

I am currently looking for opportunities outside of my current employer. I think I have reasonable chances to get a job offer if my next interview goes well and it got me wondering. If I quit my ...
9
votes
7answers
2k views

Omit Junior from job title on resume - likely outcome?

My job title is currently Junior Software Engineer. When I sent out my CV with the title Software Engineer instead, I received a much better response. If I get offered a role I applied for with ...
5
votes
1answer
194 views

How to resign when I will be leaving in 2 weeks when working on-site with a client?

I work for a consulting company so they send me to different companies (clients). Currently, I am on a client (Only couple of weeks since I started), the client is super nice and takes me out for ...
3
votes
5answers
495 views

How to have multiple lunch breaks in a day?

Due to heavy energy consumption of things I do outside of the office, I generally eat 5-7 meals (depending on what you call a meal) spread throughout the day. Over the years I've tried various ways ...
3
votes
3answers
91 views

Attending professional conferences using personal funds

My company won't be paying me to attend any industry conferences this year. Is it worth spending a week of vacation time and more than a thousand dollars to attend one? Is it a reasonable ...
2
votes
1answer
20 views

How to get praise from customers?

I work in the consulting firm of a big concern with different departments. Inside these departments are really big differences in speed, quality, consumer service etc. My department is well known and ...
2
votes
2answers
42 views

What to do when company violates terms?

As a salaried software developer, I've been working in my current company for last 2 years. My bond was for 2 years, In my service agreement it's mentioned that in case I want to leave, I have to give ...
1
vote
1answer
16 views

Asking a potential employer about internet restrictions

In an interview, how can I ask the question (without significant negative effects on how the interviewer views me) "Do you restrict and monitor internet access of your employees, and if so, in which ...
1
vote
1answer
75 views

Notice given and used had to use sick leave in last week

I'm working in New South Wales, Australia. I have given 2 months notice and now down to my last week and became ill. I have a doctors certificate, but can they hold any pay back from me as it is two ...
-6
votes
3answers
283 views

How to politely recommend someone they don't need to read the details but to sign [on hold]

How can I tell my boss that I had read (and at least partially written) something he needs to sign, and that we had already discussed its content, so I can advise him that (IMO) he does not need to ...
-10
votes
2answers
150 views
+50

How do I deal with a colleague who wears socks and sandles to work?

I have a colleague who wears socks and sandals to work. I feel this is really unprofessional and the lack of style offends me. Our office has a smart casual dress code, and this seems a blatant ...

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