During the past month I (Non-EU) have been preparing for my new software development job starting in four weeks. The job consists of relocation to a country in Europe which is a total of 2 hours by flight from my hometown.
However, few days ago I received the news that one of my parents was diagnosed with serious illness. This completely caught me off-guard. I did plan for situations like these, but I always thought I would already be settled somewhere when that would happen and it would be easy to just take free days or work remotely in order to take care of family errands. While I'm waiting for more detailed results regarding the stage of the illness, I outlined the following options that I could take:
- Cancel the new job and stay in my hometown to help my family. I doubt my current company will take me back after I gave my leaving notice, so I could look for another job in order to keep my family's finances healthy (For the record, I have another sibling and another healthy parent + relatives. Both of my parents told me that they are against me staying in my hometown because of the newly risen situation, as it might make them feel worse for me missing the opportunity)
- Relocate but inform my new employee of the situation. My plan in this case would be to fly back every (or every second) weekend (Friday evening to Sunday evening) back home in order to check the situation
- Based on the upcoming results and the stage of the illness, try to postpone the starting date of the job (For the record, we signed the contract in mid October)
My impression of the company is that they treat employees well. However, in the first 6 months I'll be on a probation period, so if I have to leave, it would be easy.
I have two questions I need advice on:
- Which of the three options you would choose if you had to and why
- How to go about letting my upcoming employee know about the whole situation
I apologize if I asked something which clearly depends on everyone's circumstances. But this community has been hugely helpful in the past and I need every advice I could get while I'm in my current state.
Thank you all.