Timeline for Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend
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| Jan 25, 2019 at 7:50 | vote | accept | fw gw | ||
| Jan 23, 2019 at 15:09 | history | edited | J. Chris Compton | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Jan 22, 2019 at 16:25 | review | Close votes | |||
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| Jan 22, 2019 at 16:23 | comment | added | dwizum | Why do you consider yourself a "sacrifice?" Once again, your language makes it seem like it's an "either/or" thing, where only one of you can possibly come out a winner. This is a business, not a cage match. There can be more than one successful person in a team or company. | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 16:11 | comment | added | fw gw | @dwizum you are right. I wish my friend succeeds, but I'm not prepared to be the sacrifice in this process, I have my own ambitions and goals. I guess I need to arrange serious conversation between two of us as user1666620 suggested | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 16:10 | answer | added | AndreiROM | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 16:09 | comment | added | Old_Lamplighter | Welcome to the workplace. Thank you for your question. In the future, you may want to wait a few days before choosing the best answer, as this will encourage more people to chime in. | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:58 | vote | accept | fw gw | ||
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| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:56 | comment | added | dwizum | Then I guess @AndreiROM is right. You seem upset at being hired to help your friend succeed. And now you want to quit because you won't get the glory if he does succeed? You say "any action which creates favourable conditions for me hurts his interests" but that would only really be true if, by "favorable conditions" you mean that it's you in the limelight instead of him. You seem to be ruling out the possibility of being happy with the venture succeeding and both of you doing well as a result. Not really sure why. | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:43 | comment | added | fw gw | @dwizum you are right. But the reason I focus so much on a friend is because any action which creates favourable conditions for me hurts his interests directly. Thus, it raises a conflict, in which I'm just unable to defend my interests, since I feel it hurts our friendship. I guess with random person it would be much easier. | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:17 | comment | added | AndreiROM | @dwizum - indeed, it seems more like the OP is a bit jealous of what his friend has to gain from the success of the project than anything else. | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:13 | comment | added | dwizum | You seem really focused on your friend: his decisions, his backup plan, his potential for success or failure. What about you? What motivates you? How risk-adverse are you? What can you do to have your own backup plan? What can you do to make this new venture successful? It's hard to give advice on what you should do when the question spends so much time talking about your friend. If this person wasn't a friend, and was just a random co-worker, how would you re-phrase the question? | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:09 | comment | added | Sandra K | Reminded me of the chicken/pig business. Who would be more committed when serving bacon and eggs? | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:04 | answer | added | Borgh | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:04 | answer | added | user1666620 | timeline score: 2 | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 15:02 | comment | added | Twyxz | Just stop doing all the work, and watch it fall and see what he does about it | |
| Jan 22, 2019 at 14:50 | review | First posts | |||
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| Jan 22, 2019 at 14:47 | history | asked | fw gw | CC BY-SA 4.0 |