Timeline for Problem with coworker frequently cutting me off
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| Nov 23, 2019 at 15:00 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/1198255015443550209 | ||
| Nov 14, 2019 at 1:19 | answer | added | Stephan Branczyk | timeline score: 1 | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 22:34 | answer | added | O. Jones | timeline score: 1 | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 17:33 | answer | added | Mohair | timeline score: 6 | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 17:12 | comment | added | Kilisi | Seems like a reasonable question to me, not uncommon to have arrogant colleagues who won't listen to reason, and probably several valid strategies to mitigate against them. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 17:00 | answer | added | Kilisi | timeline score: 13 | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:54 | comment | added | AndreiROM | There's nuance in this situation that could be provided. Does a perception exist that he's getting more done than you (often the person who is verbal gets recognition). Maybe his speaking over you is tolerated because people perceive him as being better informed? Does he speak over others? How did you approach your manager? Is he bff's with the manager? The PM? There are many ways in which you can improve this post. Digging in and saying that there's nothing wrong with the post (when it's sitting at -2 and 2 close votes) may be a hint as to why people are more willing to listen to him than you | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:53 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @AndreiROM yes, I have been a WP user for some time and I must say I'm rather baffled by your reply. "How can I resolve [insert difficult workplace issue]?" seems to be a commonly-accepted form of question on here, in my experience. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:51 | comment | added | AndreiROM | I see you have some experience on Workplace, so this shouldn't come as a shock. This site (like most stack exchange sites) is focused on addressing specific questions. What should I do? is very broad. Just off the top of my head, you could write a formal complaint and present it to management. You could email HR. You could quit. You could talk to the guy again. An answer exploring all those options could easily be several pages long. So you need to narrow down what you want advice with. The negative votes are a big hint that your post is not a good fit as it stands. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:48 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @AndreiROM "So, my question is: what is the best thing to do in this situation?" isn't a valid question? In other words: how can I resolve this issue with my coworker? | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:46 | comment | added | AndreiROM | You're asking for advice, but have no real question. Your post is going to be closed if you don't change that. What is it that you're looking to have happen? Are you asking for advice on how to approach him about it? Are you asking for advice on how to approach management? You need to be specific. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:46 | comment | added | Peter M | This issue may be better suited to interpersonal.stackexchange.com | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:45 | review | Close votes | |||
| Nov 15, 2019 at 19:55 | |||||
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:40 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @sf02 I have certainly made my frustrations clear to him. It seems he doesn't think he is doing anything wrong and feels that I am the one with the problem (i.e. unstable). | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:38 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @PeterM I believe he is deliberately cutting me off. He can certainly hear that I have just started speaking, and he can also hear my protestations after he cuts me off. He simply doesn't care. He also hasn't apologized once, when I raise the issue with him afterwards. He believes he is doing nothing wrong and shows no remorse. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:37 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @sf02 no. As I said in the question, during the most recent incident I said several times "Excuse me, I am talking. Excuse me, I am talking", but he just ignores me and carries on. As I also said, I have some level of personal dignity and I am not going to fight with him to be heard. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:36 | comment | added | sf02 | Also, have you spoken to your coworker, outside of a conference call, to address what he is doing? | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:36 | comment | added | Peter M | Is he actually deliberately cutting you off? My wife is always cutting me off because she thinks my pauses in speech are actually indications to her that I have finished speaking - which leads to her speaking over the top of me | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:34 | comment | added | Time4Tea | @dwizum the calls are typically status update calls for a project we are both working on. They are organized by the Project Manager and there are usually 4-5 people on them who are related to the project. The PM is someone who we know very well and work with closely, but unfortunately he doesn't seem to be stepping in to get the situation under control. | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:34 | comment | added | sf02 | When he starts to talk over you, do you simply stop talking? | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:30 | comment | added | dwizum | Who is typically on these calls? Who is running the meetings? Do those people have any relationship to you or the other engineer, in terms of reporting structure? | |
| Nov 13, 2019 at 16:25 | history | asked | Time4Tea | CC BY-SA 4.0 |