Timeline for Is it unprofessional to accuse someone of being "snarky" in a work chat?
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| Aug 28, 2020 at 18:03 | comment | added | mjjf | @d-b The dev had stated that my team failed to provide him with something he needed in that chat. I informed him we had not. | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 17:59 | comment | added | d-b | @mjjf Didn't you tell him in public that you already sent the code? That should also have been discussed personally rather "than in a group setting". | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 16:49 | comment | added | mxyzplk | I get that she feels like it's the final straw. That's irrelevant, what's relevant is if it's a legit thing to go first complain about. It's not. If someone came to me and said "X asked if I was being snarky in a group chat!?!" I'd say "Were you?" When they say "No! and I said no." I'd say "OK then." If they then said "but I think it was unprofessional of him to say that and I want to complain!", at most I'd say "OK, give him benefit of the doubt" and then in 1-1 tell him it's better to ask questions like that in DM instead. Not solving the problem. | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 15:24 | comment | added | Mari-Lou A | … and going to run to your manager over ridiculous things… and … if your first complaint is ridiculous … In other words you find the OP's concern to be ridiculous. Did I misunderstanding that "Half an hour later, the other tech lead dropped this in the group channel" was a public communication? Was it a personal and private message? Instead, maybe this was the straw that broke the camel's back. | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 13:44 | history | edited | mxyzplk | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Aug 28, 2020 at 8:55 | comment | added | Jon Bentley | -1, whilst your conclusion may have merit, you seem to have missed that the other team lead didn't simply "come to OP to ask" - they asked in the presence of the entirety of both teams. That was unnecessarily confrontational and aggressive and hence unprofessional. | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 1:55 | comment | added | mjjf | I appreciate the frank advice. He should be able to come to me, but it's common courtesy to discuss something like that personally rather than in a group setting. The act of making his concern public rather than private was a statement on its own. | |
| Aug 28, 2020 at 0:18 | history | answered | mxyzplk | CC BY-SA 4.0 |