Timeline for How to politely decline a departmental farewell lunch when I have social anxiety?
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| Mar 28, 2018 at 20:50 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/979098390750552065 | ||
| Apr 22, 2014 at 5:11 | comment | added | keshlam | Generally, farewell lunches are optional, and nobody's feelings are hurt if you skip them -- especially if you say farewell to the departing individual in person, or send them an e-mail saying something to the effect of "sorry to see you go, and good luck wherever life takes you next". If someone's collecting donations for a farewell gift, or to cover the cost of the departing individual's meal, it may be desirable to chip in even if you can't attend. | |
| Apr 21, 2014 at 10:18 | history | edited | gnat | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Feb 28, 2014 at 6:50 | comment | added | haylem | Why can't you just talk or send an email to your boss and simply tell them you have SA? It's not as uncommon as you think, and while some may not be familiar with it, it should be enough for them to understand and respect your wish. I mean, I've seen some people express doubts about it ("X said he's got SA but come on, it's not like it'll kill him/her to be in a room with 5 people for 2 hours") simply because they can't relate to the issue or don't believe it ("X said he's got SA, but I know him/her, and he/she seems fine") but at least you'll have made your position clear. | |
| Feb 28, 2014 at 5:36 | answer | added | coeus | timeline score: 1 | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 8:54 | answer | added | superM | timeline score: 6 | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 8:45 | answer | added | Fredrik | timeline score: 13 | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 8:42 | history | edited | user8036 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jan 22, 2014 at 8:33 | comment | added | user8036 | Minor nitpick: be careful using acronyms. SA you explained, MNC I can guess, but TM??? I have edited your question anyway because it is a lot of text. Feel fere to revet if I have removed too much. | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 5:05 | answer | added | Christopher Mahan | timeline score: -1 | |
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| Jan 22, 2014 at 3:48 | history | edited | michelle | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jan 22, 2014 at 3:29 | history | edited | michelle | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jan 22, 2014 at 3:09 | comment | added | Peter L. | @michelle I also have SA. Have for my entire life. I agree with jmac, but don't have an answer for your short-term problem. However, I think you should consider joining a Toast Master club in your area. I have and it has helped me tremendously. I mostly enjoy being around people and interacting now. You can even join a club with nothing but strangers if it makes you more comfortable. Sometimes the hardest part is the intro. | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 2:07 | comment | added | jmac | Hey michelle, and welcome to The Workplace. I'm having a bit of trouble understanding what exactly the core issue is. You say it's your social anxiety, but then you say it's the lack of friends there, and you seem to have felt the need to make excuses rather than be honest in the past. Is there some reason you can't tell your boss about this directly? If your social anxiety is so severe that it is impacting your job, I would think that is a much bigger problem that you should tackle with your boss and/or medical professional. | |
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| Jan 22, 2014 at 1:17 | history | asked | michelle | CC BY-SA 3.0 |