Timeline for How can I socialize when I sit apart from the rest of the team?
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| Nov 18, 2015 at 14:29 | comment | added | AndreiROM | @Lucas - my apologies, I must have confused your situation with another question when I commented back. Please forgive me, and good luck! | |
| Nov 18, 2015 at 14:06 | comment | added | Lucas Y. | @AndreiROM ?? I've been in the office for a little over a month. Where did you get "eight months"? | |
| Nov 18, 2015 at 13:42 | comment | added | user100487 | @Lilienthal, to me #2 can be done, not just maybe too often. Depends probably on the sentiments expressed (by OP and by his colleagues) when e.g. OP asks them for lunch. It does not have to sound "needy" at all, esp. if not done too often. But it was still good to mention it as well. | |
| Nov 17, 2015 at 15:18 | comment | added | AndreiROM | @Lilienthal - I think that interpretation is more a matter or pride. Personally, I see it as opening yourself up - becoming approachable. For example, many people say that "they never meet anyone", yet never go out and socialize. I think that this is along the same lines. By inviting people to join you you demonstrate a willingness to socialize, and thus they will start considering inviting you out with them. It's Socializing 101. Also, the OP needs to take some serious steps after failing to integrate with the team over the past EIGHT MONTHS. | |
| Nov 17, 2015 at 15:08 | comment | added | Lilienthal♦ | I feel that #2 can come across as rather needy and out of tune. I'd say it's safer to just ask the team what they normally do for lunch and join them rather than inviting an established circle to potentially break pattern by joining you. It could be as simple as asking a colleague you're close(r) with to drop you an mail or IM to announce when the team's heading for lunch. | |
| Nov 16, 2015 at 17:05 | comment | added | AndreiROM | @Todd - the whole idea is simply to open avenues and make himself approachable. At that point, even if nothing comes of it, at least he can say he tried, and no one will be able to make him out to be antisocial, or a problem employee. It's all about perception. | |
| Nov 16, 2015 at 16:48 | comment | added | Todd Wilcox | +1 Also, don't be too deterred by anyone who doesn't engage back. Most of these actions would make me somewhere between indifferent (e.g., I can't have cookies) and annoyed (I prefer to lunch alone so I can recharge my emotional bank account), but I don't socialize very well in most situations. There may be someone like me on the team, just let them be antisocial. Probably there isn't, or else the team lead would be telling them they need to socialize more. | |
| Nov 16, 2015 at 15:40 | history | edited | AndreiROM | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Nov 16, 2015 at 15:30 | history | answered | AndreiROM | CC BY-SA 3.0 |