Have a talk with your manager about that you feel indecisive and uncomfortable about what to do next since you are new, and see what he/she thinks you should do. They realize they you are new. See if they expect you to tow the line, or to just send a card stating your sorrow for the bereaving spouse.

This isn't always a quick and easy answer, but good luck.

Have a talk with your manager about that you feel indecisive and uncomfortable about what to do next since you are new, and see what he/she thinks you should do. They realize that you are new. See if they expect you to tow the line, or to just send a card stating your sorrow for the bereaving spouse.

This isn't always a quick and easy answer, but good luck.