I am a software developer, I am always doing my best and OT if I need.
I recently joined a new company where everything is fine in appearance but completely fake behind, let me explain a bit more.
Basically, during my 1-1 my manager and tech lead are happy about my work. But behind my back (working in different cubicles), it's almost the complete opposite, personal attacks about how I look, how I behave, things that I never been told in face to face. Oh and one more thing according to them I am too straightforward, even when I make mistakes I am really upfront and say right away it's my fault, which for them is... well odd.
It makes feel really bad, it's like I cannot even rely on what they are saying.
Until very recently I was keeping telling myself that I must have misheard and that I am paranoid but once I recorded them for a while leaving my smartphone somewhere close enough well it turns out that no... (just wanted to be 100% sure since I tend to easily doubt about myself).
- Good news: I am not crazy
- Bad news: they just behave really bad
I just cannot believe that people can be so mean and super shallow.
Once thing I have noticed is that the tech lead is kind of insecure because I am more knowledgeable than him and he's the one among the two (the other one being the manager) to backstab me the most. I taught him things (even simple things like .NET async/await, fix their "beginner" concurrency issues...) and never ever got a sincere "thanks".
The problem is that this sort of attacks are sometimes (most of the time actually) really not legit. Like the way my jaw moves when I am talking, my accent, like even the fact I refactor "too much" my code (just pure non-sense to me since nobody refactors anything here... it "kinda" works, so "it works...", never try to improve anything), they don't have a CI and I am trying to help them with that, but still they slow everything down for making things not happening, it's just so uncooperative even if they pretend the opposite in front of you...
I am wondering if it is a strategy to kick me out...
I am not sure that recording them was legal... but it was really starting to drive me crazy. If you something to complain about my work or just me as a living being that should be as simple as just complain to me or fire me, period.
What can I do? Should I corner them with evident with the risk that this is not legal or worse that they just go full denial? Ask them why do you behave like that? and told them that backstabbing especially within hearshot distance is really counter productive for me?
Side-note: I am working in an engineering department not IT / soft dev so it might be different.