I was applying for a job and the HR person replied to me. I replied back regarding some questions asked. From the name, I inferred that the person was a man and replied with

Dear Mr. ABC,

Later in the day I looked up the person's profile on the internet only to discover that they are actually a woman! What should I do now? What should I say to her?

I have learned my lesson to actually look up the person in the conversation first.

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    @Acccumulation Be very careful with gender-neutral titles or pronouns. Virtually all of them are new, contrived or non-standard and they're only slowly gaining acceptance and recognition. "Mx" in particular seems to be a UK-specific version.
    – Lilienthal
    Nov 30 '17 at 8:16
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    If you're sending a message to a company with a liberal culture, you'll probably have more success with using their first name.
    – Erik
    Nov 30 '17 at 8:29
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    @Acccumulation I've never heard of "Mx", I'd advise against using that. In terms of unknown gender, I'd go with the traditional Sir/Madam.
    – user44108
    Nov 30 '17 at 8:32
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    @Acccumulation Most people would find it odd if you used Mx. I would probably be offended if someone referred to me as that. Why not just say Sir/Madam like people have been doing since the beginning of time? Nov 30 '17 at 9:42

I wouldn't make too big a thing about it.

Make sure you get it correct from now on, and apologise if they reply correcting your mistake, but I wouldn't go calling attention to it.

The same goes as far as getting any honorific (Dr, Reverend, etc) wrong.

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    People with names that are gender-confusing are usually quite used to the mistake and shouldn't get upset about it. (Personally, I usually don't even bother to correct the mistake. When I was born "Loren" was male, "Lauren" was female. Now there is no male.) Nov 30 '17 at 1:47
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    @LorenPechtel there are still a few "Lorne"s, though. Nov 30 '17 at 3:20
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    @Acccumulation A few. Wolfram Alpha says there are about 6 new ones a year. Nov 30 '17 at 23:34

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