I work at an institution of higher education. One of our employee benefits is a generous tuition reimbursement if we take classes here. I decided to take advantage of this and go back to school here. The educational experience is really excellent so far, and I'm hoping to finish my degree by taking classes part time around the FT job that grants me this tuition benefit.
I have a departmental VP who tells me they are supportive of me and my career, including my decision to pursue my degree. However, the actions of said VP do not line up with these words. On several occasions, VP has rearranged scheduling, stress-dumped (communicated urgency where there wasn't any), and done other things that have an observable pattern of undermining and belying those verbal affirmations.
When I talk one-on-one with VP, they seem congenial and genuine. I do not dislike VP completely as a person (outside of this problem), but all this runaround, this drastic contradiction between words and actions, leaves me feeling gaslit like my head got put in a blender. VP's actions don't match their words and I feel trapped. I don't know where to go with this, or who would even be accessible let alone appropriate to tap for intervention. I can't help being convinced it is deliberate -- it's too consistent to NOT be deliberate -- but if I try to tell anyone else that, or if I try to confront VP with that, I know it will go nowhere and probably even make things worse for me.
I don't know how to address this effectively, or at all. I need these games to stop and I want to be treated with the consideration and respect as an individual and professional that I deserve. I also need to get to "yes" on actual, practical, reasonable accommodations for scheduling class. None of the courses I need for the degree are offered at night, neither here nor what very few are paralleled at the local community college.
I'm concerned VP will keep circumstantially squeezing me this way until I'm forced to give up on school or resign (which will mean giving up on school as well, as I cannot afford tuition on my own without the benefit from my job). Resigning is not an option at this time. Thanks.