(Disclaimer: I am by no means a famous person, but I do have a medium sized YouTube channel with around 100k subscribers.)
So it just happenend that the company I worked for a couple years now hired someone that knew my channel. At first I didn't mind talking to him about it, and taking a picture with him. I actually felt flatternd and good with it. But it just doesn't stop.
He comes over at least 2 times a day asking me things, wanting pictures or literally just snapping pictures with his phone of me while I am working. And I can't take it anymore. He also calls me in my free time, putting me on speaker while his friends are listening.
I don't want information of where I work online and I am scared he might share this information. I just want to have a normal work life.
What can I do to make him understand that I really like to have a "normal worklife" and that I hope he doesn't compromise my safety. Because I have had a couple bad interactions with "fans" in the past. I don't think he means to make me feel unsafe, I believe he just doesn't know better.
(What I tried in the past:
I asked him to only come to me with not work related things during lunch break or team building events like paintball. (which he ignored)
I asked him not to put anything personal of me online. (which he hasnt done but he told friends where I work and I don't think he understands how serious it is to me)
I told him I feel unsafe when he calls me and I don't know who is listening. (which he told me is "not a big deal" because it was only his friends))
Update: I tried a mixture of Simons and Möoz answers.
When he came in this morning, he went straight to my desk and asked 'How I survived outside in the cold long enough to get to work?'. I kindly answered and asked him to come with me in a meeting room because I need to talk with him about something serious. He followed me in there.
I tried my best to look him straight in the eyes and told him as firm as I could that this behavior needs to stop. Completly. That I do like him as a person, but this behavior is dangerous to me and it affects more parts of my life than he thinks. I told him it is borderline stalking, and he was shocked. Also I told him again how unsafe I feel. I didn't let him speak at all. I also told him how I usually build my friendships and that I am willing to give him a chance to change.
Our next Team building event will be cart racing in teams of 2, I offered him to be on a team with me and take pictures there. I explained that it is a neutral enviroment where no one could stalk me in the future.
Then finally I let him speak. He said he was sorry, he tried to explain that he was not thinking clear when he saw me in the past. He apologized more and promised me to stop taking pictures of me and calling me. He also will gladly join my team. In the end he was almost crying and saying that he was trying to hard to get my attention and that all he wanted to be is friends.
Thank you so much for your answers, I will try to post an update tomorrow and see if he keeps his promise.