Although my progress at my current company is good, due to some personal issues with my manager, I am planning to move to another company. I am feeling uncomfortable working with him. However, I am not sure what should I tell about the following questions to the HR of the new company.

1. Why do you want to leave your current company? 

I don't want to bad mouth about my manager as he is good interms of providing interesting projects. However, as I said before, we have some differences. Therefore, I would like to tell the following as an answer for this question: "Although the projects are interesting at my current work, I am looking for new challenges and opportunity to grow. I believe that your company will offer me to grow."

2. Can you provide a reference letter from your current manager?

I am not sure whether I can get a good recommendation letter from my current manager or not. Therefore, I would like to say no. But I am not sure what is the best way to say no.

Please help me.


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    How personal are we talking here? Professional-personal? As in "I can work with everyone here, except him." Or personal-personal? As in "He's a Dodgers fan, I'm an Angels fan, it can never work." Or deeply-personal? As in "He ran over my dog and laughed."
    – pdr
    Apr 20, 2013 at 16:42
  • @pdr: please assume that I cannot work with him anymore.
    – samarasa
    Apr 20, 2013 at 16:45
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    Doesn't really answer my question. We don't need (or really want) to know what happened, specifically, but those three categories carry very different answers, as far as I'm concerned.
    – pdr
    Apr 20, 2013 at 16:49
  • Professional-personal?
    – samarasa
    Apr 20, 2013 at 16:49

2 Answers 2


My recommendation is to leave the negativity behind you and start fresh at a new job. Your reason for leaving your current job needs to include something that says what you're bringing the new job, for example:

"Although the projects are interesting at my current work, I am looking for new challenges and opportunity to grow. I believe I can achieve that growth and make a positive contribution by joining your organization."

It will also look good if you do some research on that company and their industry prior to your interview.

In regards to a letter of recommendation, I would just answer "no" with no further explanation. Employers are not kindly benefactors looking out for your well-being, after all. By leaving their company, you're taking your training, experience and productivity out the door with you, causing them to have to go through the time and expense to replace you. Why should they reward you with a recommendation letter? Here in the US, former employers are required to provide the date range that you worked for them, period.

  • How about "I'm leaving because my current salary is not good"? Does this fall under "saying bad things about the company"?
    – Alaa Ali
    Sep 23, 2013 at 15:21

Ok, given that it's about an individual, but purely professional, I think you need to be honest but positive about it. Honest, because if the same problem will exist with your new boss, everyone needs to consider that. But positive because it's never a good idea to have a whinge about your current boss at an interview.

You know that both of these questions are likely to come up, so think very hard about the answer and be very ready.

If you say "Although the projects are interesting at my current work, I am looking for new challenges and opportunity to grow. I believe that your company will offer me to grow," then you're going to have a hell of a problem when you say that your boss may hold a grudge and may not give you a good reference.

And, make no mistake, you are going to have to say that. Most candidates can get good references from previous bosses. If you can't then you need a good reason and an alternative.

So make the answer to the first question a mild preparation for the second question. Make it clear that you have no ill-feeling and you think that, in most respects, you think your boss is a decent guy and a decent manager. Then go on to explain that there was a disagreement. Be as specific as you can be, but obviously avoid mentioning if it turned into a physical fight or something.

Then turn it back to a positive note. Make it that you really think it's better for everyone -- you, your boss, your old employer, and your potential new employer -- that you make a new start somewhere else, where your skills are respected and your past and future are positive.

Again, sandwich the negative in two positives and keep the negative as brief as possible, most people won't even notice it. But they will be prepared when you come to talk about references.

Then you can be quick to say "I really don't know if my boss is holding enough of a grudge to withhold my reference. I will ask him, I don't think it will be a problem, but if he is unwilling, would you accept a reference from ..." [be very prepared with a name and title]

Also, don't be afraid to approach your current HR about a reference. HR will be very wary of allowing someone to say something bad about an employee while representing the company (particularly if it's a written reference). That kind of thing can land them in court and it's not a risk worth taking, when the perceived "problem" is leaving them.


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