I work in a company of about 100 people. Recently, the company decided to do some restructuring, which means that I now have someone new as my direct reporting manager.
The other two people on my team and I are all very disturbed by the way the new manager communicates with us, gives us feedback, and generally manages us on a day-to-day basis. We are all demotivated and morale is poor. I decided to sit down with my manager one on one and discuss what is happening, how myself and the team are feeling, and what I proposed to improve the situation. I tried to be very clear in pointing out that none of it is personal, and that I want to work with her to solve the problems that I see on my end.
She reacted badly, rationalizing every concrete example I explained, and told me that I was giving "unfair feedback." In a subsequent meeting, her first question to me was if I had any more "disastrous feedback" for her.
Another coworker on my team also tried to bridge the gap with our manager, and was told that she was rude, negative, and gave "stupid examples."
EDIT: This manager did indeed ask for us to give her feedback on how she's doing since this isn't a field she's managed before or knows much about.
How does one solve workplace problems with a manager who takes all criticism personally and in a very negative way?