I'm a young female engineer from a racial minority group in the US. 90% of the staff is white male American. I started dating a coworker 6 months ago. We disclosed our relationship to our supervisors and HR.
My office mate's job involves constant requirements gathering.I have witnessed my office mate flirting with my partner.
I had a situation where coworkers talking to my office mate caused prolonged interruptions of about 1.5 hours. I told my supervisor that I couldn't accept the situation, and that for prolonged discussions, the coworkers should ask for a conference room.
I have since been receiving passive aggressive behavior from some of my coworkers. Even though I apologized to my office mate multiple times, I stopped being invited to events. Other women around my age started talking about these events they are attending together, which makes me feel ostracized.
This has been going on for about 5 months.
I feel bullied at work and I don’t know what to do. I feel stressed and I want to ignore the situation, but it's taking a toll on me emotionally speaking.
I wonder what would be the best course of action?
- I can notify my supervisor about the behavior
- I can tell HR
- I can leave the company
- Request to work from home 50% of the time
I will continue to treat nice to everyone including my officemate. I don't gossip about people and I will let my good work to speak for me. I'm confident I have the emotional maturity to handle the situation. If the situation escalates to the point my work productivity is affected then I'll move to a more proactive action.