How do I nicely tell co-workers that I would not like to have a retirement dinner? This is something that everyone before me had & people look forward to this. I am not against the dinner, but feel that my supervisors set things up in a way to prevent me from earning a higher wage, and don't want to see them at a dinner - they would be expected to attend. I might say something that I shouldn't if I see them there. Comment: I only found out about the wages recently. That is one of the reasons I decided to retire, now. I know my salary won't improve. Thank you for your answers. I am on good terms with my co-workers.
As you said, people look forward to the dinner, so this dinner isn't just for you even if it is in your name. If you're retiring then you don't really have to keep a good report with your coworkers anymore if you don't want to but if you wish to stay on good terms with them then I'd recommend sucking it up and going. If you do go, why won't you be able to keep your mouth shut when seeing your supervisors? I assume you've been successful at doing it for quite a while if you are retiring from the company, why not one more evening? Again you don't need to keep your mouth shut as, you know, retirement.
In the end you could just not show up. I'd assume they'd still have the dinner without you since they're already there but again it might leave a sour taste in their mouth.
I really suggest you reconsider your attendance. My father retired recently, he is a reserved person and I don't think he wanted to attend his lunch it was at first. I think regardless of the circumstances of your retirement it would be a mistake to associate the event with grievances of your supervisors. It should be a celebration of your entire career, the contributions you have made to the industry and the part you played, however big or small, in progressing it which the next generation (such as myself) benefited from. If you are worried about the event that your supervisors will speak on your behalf or other concerns which you have that will overshadow the event for you, I suggest you communicate that you would prefer if they can alter the format slightly that they don't have long speeches that you just want to celebrate with your colleagues and only a very small toast.