I work at a software development company as a developer in the United States. I am well compensated in this salaried role. I work with other developers who are typically are happy to be brought into discussions/bug fixes on nights & weekends, some of the issues can take hours to resolve up into the wee hours of the early mornings. There really isn't a "it can wait" attitude at my company. However, when I look at what is being asked of me and the other developers, it really can wait, nothing is on fire, people are still making money, and the work being asked "can" wait.
I am absolutely not in this camp of "work extra because I love my job", I don't want to work nights & weekends, I don't want to be bothered on the weekends, I simply want to be left alone to be with my wife and kids(7). I have typically "checked out" on the weekends, put away my phone, and generally am hard to get a hold of intentionally. I can be available on nights and weekends, if the situation demands it and it truly is an emergency situation.
I've tried to explain to my boss my "busy" family life, but I don't think he gets it. During the week, I'm usually away from my home in the evenings until late, and on the weekend, that is my time to relax with my family. Typically we have things we do as a family, and I'm not usually in a position to help. Sunday is my day of rest, and I've told him I check out that day intentionally because of my faith and family commitments.
Still though, he calls, he texts and still he wants me to do something he feels is super urgent (but it can wait, seriously it can wait).
How can I approach a conversation with my boss about constantly pressuring me to work on nights and weekends? I feel making my phone ring is pressure enough to 'work'. I'm really on the edge of just finding a new job, solely because I don't want to be bothered on the weekends unless it is a dire emergency. I feel I'm between a rock and a hard place though, as I don't want to look bad, or like I'm intentionally ignoring him on nights & weekends, but it's probably coming off that way.
They do sometimes "treat me right" for required weekend work, as I've received sporadic bonuses, but if you do the math, the money received isn't equal to the time they want me to spend on extra work.
How can I approach a conversation with my boss about constantly pressuring me to work on nights and weekends?