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I have recently attended an interview; it went on pretty well. Both of us liked the technical discussion and I was offered a job too. But, I rejected it as the salary negotiation with the HR was not up to my expectations.

I was very impressed with the technical interviewer; he was smart, cool, composed, accommodating and I really started liking him. It's been a week, but I am really unable to get him out of my mind.

Generally, I do not go out on dates nor do I get easily impressed. I am a tough nut to crack. But, this person was different.

Now that I do not have anything to do with that company, I was wondering if I could ask him out on a casual lunch date. I wanted to know what would be the repercussions and how should I proceed if I ever have to?

Also, I do not wish to get romantically involved with this person. It's just a casual lunch date that I want to have with him. I have no idea about his marital status or relationship status.

Or, should I drop this idea?

closed as off-topic by Jim G., BigMadAndy, gazzz0x2z, gnat, Snow Dec 18 '18 at 7:36

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    1) You don't need to defend your personality here 2) I still don't understand what your aim is given that you stress you don't wish to get romantically involved with him. Could you specify your objectives? – BigMadAndy Dec 16 '18 at 9:10
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    Meet him once more for what purpose? Business? Personal? You want to have lunch with him for nothing? You need to understand everybody's time is precious including yours. Please make your question clear – scaaahu Dec 16 '18 at 9:29
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    Now that consensus is "It's OK to go out", you should consider taking this question to interpersonal.stackexchange.com if you need more suggestions – aaaaaa Dec 16 '18 at 14:47
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    @JimG. don't be mean. There are at least few Q here "is it OK to ask out interviewer" – aaaaaa Dec 16 '18 at 15:27
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    Topicality aside, you should probably be honest about your intentions here, at least with yourself if not with us. It's rather strange to stress having no romantic interest while still mentioning things like flirting and being unable to stop thinking of someone... – Lilienthal Dec 16 '18 at 22:24
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Get his contact number, reintroduce yourself and and ask him.

One problem though is you express no romantic interest, yet this will be the impression whatever you say. Particularly since you want to meet him in person in a neutral environment. If it's just discussing ideas and things then it is probably better to get to know him through social media or something like that at least initially. I communicate and share ideas with a lot of people I never personally meet.

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    Thank you for your suggestions. I think I'll go with the social media thing. – Sara Dec 16 '18 at 10:11
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    Good luck, good, interesting people are worth getting to know. – Kilisi Dec 16 '18 at 10:13
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I was wondering if I could ask him out on a casual lunch date. I wanted to know what would be the repercussions and how should I proceed if I ever have to?

As long as you are no longer connected with the company, and don't wish to be in the future, there are no issues here.

Just email or call.

If you may want to get a job at this company in the future, then avoid this approach.

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