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I am a Software Team Lead in a private company where I have been leading a team for more than a year.
Few members in the team calls me 'sir' and few calls me 'brother' since last year. Even though I have asked me to call by name many times, they do not respect that.
Because of this, I am unable to enforce new people joining in the team to call me by my name.
How can I address this?
Even though I have asked me to call by name many times, they could not follow it.
These are habits. People create habits over long periods of time. Changing these habits can become rather difficult especially when you're in a workplace environment.
Repitition is the best way to change or recreate a habit, everytime someone says "Sir" or "Brother" simply say "It's Rakesh" and make it clear that everytime they call you otherwise you're going to remind them until it changes.
Just like the other answer states, reminding them cordially that you would like to be called by your name everytime they use another greeting is the best way in my opinion.
Just to add my two cents, I'd formally inform the team that you would like to be called by your name. You don't need to make a big deal out of it, just use the next team meeting and say something around this:
"By the way, please I'd like to be called by name from now on. I know some of you are used to other forms of greetings, and that was ok until now. I'll make sure to remind you when you don't comply, helping you create the new habit. I won't mind being eventually called brother or site, as I hope you won't mind being reminded."
