I have been working for my current company for seven years now, I have moved up in responsibility but taken very little salary increases when I have done so. Mainly to get experience. Other than inflation payrises over the past four - five years I am still on around the same salary.
I have been making it very clear to my manager that I want to move up (and would want a decent salary increase when I do). I don't want to go into too much detail here but I have been in talks with my employer about SIX different roles over the past 6 months and I either don't get the job after applying, the job falls through because the client no longer needs the role or its a sideways move. It has gotten near on ridiculous and towards the end of it all I have been having sleepless nights and crying a lot due to being messed around so much and having my hopes built up and then nothing!
After all of this messing me around, I decided to finally bite the bullet and go external. Applied for a few jobs and got an interview for one that sounds pretty good (but would be a big change and slight step up).
Anyway, so whilst I am going through the interview process with this external company and being ready to leave then my employer FINALLY offer me a promotion - one that is definitely solid this time and more money. They have also given me a decent bonus recently too.
Now I am torn. It is like a grieved and I got myself ready and psyched up to leave and then this happens. Both jobs are similar in ways, if I stay with my current employer I get to keep all the benefits I have (knowledge of the company, job safety, great annual leave entitlement, home-based on contract) and a decent-ish salary increase but if I leave to this external I get a HUGE salary increase (much bigger than what they are offering me), still get the flexible working then a whole new company so a big change with lots to learn but maybe for the better.
Expecting both offers to be at the end of the week and I am going to have to make a decision, I am finding it hard to decide. Any advice on what I can do to get to a decision? I may not even get the external job but I need to be prepared for this.
By the way I am a huge empath and have severe issues with 'letting people down', so this is really hard for me.