Background: Over the course of the last few years, my manager has been bad mouthing me in nonofficial "around the water cooler" type conversations. I have overheard this many times and my colleagues have also informed me. He has said similar comments about other staff to me as well. Once I asked him not to, but no improvement.
This behavior makes me feel insecure, I want to buy a home but I don't feel safe enough to take that plunge. I can't have a senior second guessing me and spreading negative information to my colleagues.
The conflict: A weeks ago, while having a conversion, I told the CEO that I am considering leaving. (I thought it was only fair that I give him a heads up, he has been a good boss and I look up to him)
He naturally asks me what happened, I didn't want to have that discussion so I just gave a hit that I am unhappy the way a senior manager is behaving.
The CEO tells me to have an open discussion with this manager and see if something can be done. I had no intention of having that conversion, I just wanted to leave quietly and as quickly as possible.
A few days ago, I overhead him again (He speaks very loudly, hard to not hear. I was not snooping).
This made me very upset. I decided to write an email with cc to the CEO. Accused him of defamation. I knew he wouldn't accept any wrongdoing and I had no proof to show.
I feel like I vented few years worth of frustration and I am happy.
As expected he denied and tried to justify all actions.
The downside is, now that bridges are burnt, I should leave immediately.
CEO wants me to stay and try to work through it.
Should stay and I try?