I am currently looking for a job, and I am going to say that #MeToo has made me quite scared of just what might be called sexual harassment in an American workplace. I can also mention that I quit my last job over a sort of obsession with the "exact" definition of sexual harassment when talking about it resulted in a complaint against me, which was not communicated to me the best. It sort of left me with the impression that I couldn't talk about this at all when it was intended to keep me from talking about this all the time (I have since gotten that much clarification at least from the manager.)
I'm mostly asking about whether behaviors like pats on the back without consent, compliments on appearance, and expressing desire to "date" employees constitute sexual harassment in workplaces in the USA. In particular, if there is any kind of national standard for definitions of such, in part so I can't just call anything and everything that I can claim made me "uncomfortable" sexual harassment! I recognize that without a federal or state standard, or at the very least a general guideline, this question would get workplace-specific and warrant me asking HR at the workplace(s) in question (which would be almost anywhere I get an interview.)
This is where "double standards" can also rear their ugly heads, and I morally will not tolerate any policies that make it more of an offense if a man does it than if a woman does. While I understand that many more men than women would feel flattered more than uncomfortable with this conduct, this is still not an excuse to take men who are borderline sexually harassed like this who are uncomfortable any less seriously than similarly uncomfortable women. Yes, it's opinion, but it's also a part of my conscience that I feel very strongly about, and I will not compromise it for the sake of immediate employment.
So I guess if I had to ask about one specific behavior: are pats on the back without explicit verbal consent very often considered sexual harassment in U.S. workplaces? Information about other, similar behaviors would be appreciated too.
EDIT: A key piece of information about this question: I quit of my own accord. I wasn't fired.