I'm muslim, brown, middle eastern, and no my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests.
My manager makes interesting comments. He normally intends these comments as something humourous but sometimes he is serious too. Neither is comfortable. Some examples I remember below:
- about my friend "Was he a terrorist?". This is the latest one and it really got me thinking.
- nearly every day at lunch "Are you fasting today?". Muslims fast for the month of Ramadan and sometimes outside, but we don't fast everyday and we're probably not fasting while we are eating lunch.
- about a certain family members career "Are they a doctor?"
- To me "Do you like bacon?" or some variation where I'm eating pork. Muslims generally don't eat pork and he asks this quite frequently.
- paraphrasing here "middle eastern countries are backwards and oppressive".
I'm afraid if I complain it'll reflect in my performance review as my manager is the one who alone does it. I'm the only brown and Muslim person at my work, so it'll be obvious I reported it.
I'm also contemplating simply leaving. My last manager was a racist too, but only on occasion (like a couple times a year, she'd make a comment). Here, I'm faced with this nearly every day and while I didn't mind it too much at first, it's gotten to the point where I'm not comfortable anymore.
Any practical suggestions would be helpful.
UPDATE (the next day):
Today he asked me while I was eating my Lasagna....'Is it middle-eastern Lasagna?'. It's a good example of the subtly racist comments that he makes. By itself, I wouldn't think much of it, but with everything else he says...blekh!
I'm thinking I might talk to hr about being entirely remote soon that way I don't have to worry about his comments or any retaliation.
UPDATE (5 minutes after previous update)
He asked about me eating pork again and I told him it wasn't funny. And a few seconds later he made a comment about women in Afghanistan not having rights. btw I'm not from Afghanistan. I thought these would be good examples of what I was trying to communicate yesterday.