How to behave if your superiors react badly to your every word?
I mean situations when specific, job-related topics are being discussed and you bring up an idea in the context of this discussion. The ideas aren't completely absurd of course. They are on the same level of other people's inputs. I'm not saying they definitely need to be implemented or are the best ones of course, but the reaction is always negative, bordering on gaslighting.
Should I really just shut up and withdraw?
- I've tried pretending not to see the bad reaction and just continuing trying to conduct a rational discussion but it's visible that people are irritated and negative towards me.
- I've tried reacting with self-confidence and asking the person whether he's irritated by what I've said since he seems so. He apologised. And hated me afterwards.
- I've tried telling my boss I'm happy about every feedback and if he wants me to let him lead and to hold back myself, I will be "more than happy to". He stressed he absolutely expects my contributions. And reacted badly to them afterwards.
This happened to me in my previous job too. Normally it happens when I work with highly extroverted, quite unstructured, not very analytical people. I know I myself come across as a bit introverted, quite structured and very analytical.
- The points I bring up are fact-based and not accusatory or offensive of course; they are normally constructive proposals to solve problems that are being discussed
- I absolutely don't dominate discussions, the opposite is true. I don't talk much (because at the current situation, I'm afraid to), but when I do this is received badly.
- It's mostly about discussions with my peers or superiors, but ones where I would think I'm expected to contribute and not only sit and nod.