I'm a new college graduate who started working at a large company. Each year, the company recruits some new graduates to join a 2-year program. So, the program always has two "classes" who share a single manager.
I am a gay man and working somewhere with a welcoming, inclusive culture is very important to me. After getting to know the other people in my "class" at work, I told them that I felt like the older class gave off a "bro-y" vibe.
I know it wasn't the best decision to share this, but I shared it in confidence. Now, someone from my class told the older class. Obviously, I'm upset about it spreading, but today the older class surrounded me and basically accosted me about it. They shared that they were hurt by it, and I feel really bad.
To be honest, I can't help but feel like it's a little tone-deaf for straight white men to confront a gay man who's described the office culture as "bro-y." Ultimately, while I'm upset that this spread and was interpreted negatively, I do agree with what I originally said.
Is calling the office culture "bro-y" even offensive? I'll definitely apologize to these people for hurting their feelings, but should I do anything else to get back to a neutral relationship with the older class?