Some background story: I moved a couple of times always to big cities, due to my last and current job I moved in a small city. My first year here wasn't really a pleasure for various reasons (racism, different cultures, people not open minded, prejudices about other's provenience, poor public services and transports but really expensive).. I improved some of these, but still some of them keep going bad after 5 years.
If everything sucked, I wouldn't even ask this question.. I'd not have any doubts about quitting and leaving. The issue is that the company I'm working for and my current team... I think I've never had such great experience in 8/9 years of employment. EVERYONE so positive, polite, lively and everything you could ask for in a team.. I'm not saying it's perfect but everyday when I wake up I'm happy to go to office and enjoy my job and my colleagues. Not everyone has such a lucky situation as this one.
But, life is not made only by work and office, my colleagues are great but they're not my friends and I prefer to keep it as this way. I really don't want to confuse personal and work stuff, people in particular. I sincerely don't know if they're so positive just because we're in a workplace and we care to keep it a good place to work or if it's in their nature. I'm saying this because other people, outside of my work environment, are terribly and incredibly TOXIC (like I said above), and apart from this the city doesn't offer much in terms of locals, transports and similar stuff.
In short: I don't want to live in this city anymore, I'm exhausted by it. I tried to solve this problem by traveling around during weekends, meet some friends in close (but not so close) cities around.. this solution I think would fit for good in the short period. But I'm starting to thinking in something to build, buy a house, have a family and where I live now (that has been 5 years at this day) I don't feel at home, accepted, safe or whatever positive thoughts a normal person could have about the place where he lives. I'm usually not a person who speaks without trying, I know that things not always go how we want or how we imagine them, I'm not the kind of person who gives up at the first issue... I always try to fight back and overcome bad situations. As I said before, if everything sucked I would quit and leave. My current company doesn't allow any remote work, and as we had some discussions about this topic, it will never do.
Honestly now I'm really afraid of what they'll think of me when I'll soon leave. I've been always lively and smiley and happy with my job, but leaving anyway? I'll sure look weird or fake to them. Maybe lose their trust... I don't like to burn bridges BUT i have to fight for my life/work balance... I have to be happy inside and outside my office and I tried various solutions but none of them is fitting well to my person.
Then, my question is: should I be honest with my team and my boss about what I'm feeling and why I don't see other choice? Or should I just let it go and say that I've received a good offer and i would be a fool to not accept it? Money is definitely not in my interest, I want just to keep my life as healthy as possible. Previous companies were really, REALLY, stressful.. but not this one.. that's why I don't know what to do.
Other colleagues left my current company before me: some were seen bad, some were seen good. This is happening in the UK, but I'm not from the UK.