I am an introverted team lead. My superiors and my team members do recognize that I am an effective leader. Also, I do not really get strict or angry usually when things go wrong , instead I focus on helping team members understand why their action was not a good decision and how to handle such cases in the future. Even though I am really introverted, I am really humble, I do not boss my team round, we work as a team.
I always make plans for what roles a team member has right now and what new roles this team member can grow in to , that would benefit both the individual member and the team. I discuss these things pretty openly with the team, everyone knows what they are doing and where they are going. Also, their input and personal interest is always considered.
Aside from being introverted I have social phobia as well, so in my office I just talk to people about work. If something good happens to someone, I congratulate them, if something bad happens I always try to be understandable of their situation ( and even cut them some slack regarding work responsibility). Aside from that I do not really socialize with any one.
Also, I am a female and my current team is all male. I am from South Asia, in my culture not everyone feels at ease socializing with opposite gender, many chose to keep a respectful distance. Which is also a factor of why I do not socialize much with my team......But I am realizing that I really need to do that in order to win their full trust.
I have been leading this team for many years, and during this time, total 3 people have left the company and 1 person just resigned today, whom we are gonna may be try to retain...may be....
1 of those 3 was a female member and she opened up to me about her personal issues and I advised her to resign for now and comeback whenever she figures stuff out.
The problem is, (aside from that 1 female member ) I never saw it coming myself.... Instead my managers gave me a hint that this person is looking for this kind of opportunity, so they might leave sooner or later.
What surprises me is that, they open up to the boss over me, but not to me....
What do I need to do to make them feel comfortable in talking to me about such things, to trust me with their plans....My company and team has open door policy, why don't they come to me..? They are comfortable with the boss of their boss but not the direct boss herself.....I do not get it.
Please help me understand this and advice me how to be more involved in team members's future plans.
The reason I want to know this, is to better plan the activities. If someone is a potential exit then I need to start preparing their replica, I need to rotate their tasks. So if they stay then, well and good, if not then I already have someone to take on the important stuff. By the way, finding people who have experience in my field is really hard, mostly we have to just get a fresh graduate and train him/her. But if I know before hand then we can switch tasks of existing experienced members, which would make things easy for the team.