I know a couple of founders who have made significant wealth and they mentor me. I post this on LinkedIn and WhatsApp. I also try to show a good picture of life (giving a good impression about life.) My coworkers specially the HR head reads my posts and said that I am showing off. I apologized and have since removed the posts. Since then he hasn't been talking at all and has been spying on me using different coworkers and blaming that I don't work well. I have been very polite and tried to talk to him again and again at several points but he ignores and just walks away. What should I do?

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    what do you mean by flexing? – Dan Neely Oct 20 at 17:56
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    @DanNeely: Being a showoff. – user1061 Oct 20 at 18:18
  • Can you elaborate on the "spying on you using different coworkers"? What has happened with that e.g. is it through social media, asking them about things you've said, or what? Also, I can understand about LinkedIn as it's a professional network, but I am curious how WhatsApp affects this -- are you in a group with HR/others on WhatApp for example? – seventyeightist Oct 20 at 18:28
  • Also what was your actual motivation in posting this on LinkedIn etc? – seventyeightist Oct 20 at 18:30
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    @seventyeightist: They were added on my phonebook and my seeing my whatsapp updates. On LinkedIn I am a mini influencer and meet interesting people. – user1061 Oct 20 at 18:51

Assuming you are really telling us the truth and your performance is good, but the head of HR is badmouthing you anyway.

You don't have much of a choice. You need to find yourself a new employer as soon as possible.

The head of HR has a lot of power. He can block all your avenues of advancement and potentially can even get you fired.

And trying to gain the approval of someone who disrespects you and lies about your performance because he doesn't like you, that's only going to make things worse for yourself in the long-run.

You need to leave as soon as possible. Until then, be the perfect employee, do not do anything controversial, do not stand out.

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    I like that first sentence. I can't escape the feeling there is more to this story than what is in OP's post. – onnoweb Oct 21 at 20:43
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    "You need to leave as soon as possible." - This is absolutely terrible advice. See J. Chris Compton answer. Talk to the people you know and you might be able to resolve the situation. – Keltari Oct 29 at 9:19

Speak to those "founders" that you know.
(Unclear to me if you mean the founders of your company or other companies)

Ask them what to do, as they are closer to your situation than we are.

@Stephan Branczyk is correct that the head of HR generally wields great power within a company and that power often extends beyond the company you're currently working for.
You made the right first move by apologizing and removing... plan your next step carefully.

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