After more than ten years I started a new job last summer, so it´s been near on half a year in my new job. I absolutely love my new job and like my new colleagues.
I liked my former colleagues, too. There´s not a single person I liked so much to call them a real friend, but it was the team as a whole that I really liked.
Though we said we´ll keep in touch and I met two of those colleagues incidentally while shopping, I feel contact has broken up. I´d absolutely like to fix that. I feel somewhat awkward simply calling someone, though. To get them all (or some of them) together to talk I´d have to rely on someone "inside" my former employer to organise, e.g. going out for a drink, and I don´t know how to start such a conversation.
Am I right about feeling awkward? If not: How should I start communication? Is it even usual what I´m intending?
I´ve got mobile numbers of most of them - and most of them have WhatsApp. During work hours I can´t call, because of strict rules in their company. Either way: should I call or write?
The goal on my side of contacting them: I´d love to exchange work experiences. What moved for them, what do we work like where I am now, I think I can even solve at least one of their (minor) issues we had with my new experiences, which I would love to talk about. I just like to chat about work here and there. Like we always did when I still worked there.
- For my former colleagues things aren´t going so well as we´re running towards recession and my former employer has already been hit, meaning pay cuts etc. for my former colleagues - while my new employer usually gets soaring during national recession. I gave in notice before word of recession was spreading. I´m somewhat gleeing inside, but don´t want to be harsh on them.
- my current company isn´t looking for new employees (in our specific job) neither, so should we meet it will be no job board for either side. Just exchanging experiences
- one of my former colleagues (with whom I was working most of the time) sees me as a traitor because I left. He´s a former military valuing "loyalty" pretty high. I´m pretty sad about that as we worked pretty close for several years, but I will (have to) accept if he doesn´t want to talk to me anymore.
- some of my former colleagues kept visiting each other at home, and I sometimes participated. So inviting them to my home would for sure be the simplest way to get in touch. But I was the only female in the department, I´m married and my husband made it clear, even when I still worked there, he doesn´t want them here. I respect his opinion, especially since there´s one colleague that likes drinking and likes staying overnight wherever he is, which even I would find awkward. So inviting them here is no option. But of course I can´t invite them to someone else´s home...
PS: I thought about posting that question to interpersonal instead. Tell me if it´s better off there.