I'm not really sure where to go.. so maybe this place and help a bit.
I've been at my current job for over two years now, we're a small jewelry company. The business changed hands to a individual (rather than a corporate) back in the summer of 2019. The boss and I get along just fine, she's very involved in the company and is there daily.
We were still part of our previous owner (a corporate entity) when we hired a graduate from a local college, as we had a few people leave due to moving to other states or jobs. It was actually my suggestion to hire more help because we were very short on hands. I figured I'd be training her to do my job, as I was planning to leave as well. But the end result was I found affordable housing where I was after two years of waiting.
My interactions with this coworker are limited as I work in my own room (dust and machinery with polishing) and I work part-time at somewhat different hours, she's kind of in a central design position despite being one of the newest people there. She has a degree in jewelry and metalsmithing. I'm not a social person due to mental health related things, but I've been at this job for long enough and I get along really well with everyone.
Except this coworker it seems.
We had a small tiff that ruffled feathers maybe two months ago? I realized I had been exceptionally ill behaved after I spoke about it in therapy (weekly thing) and I did actually apologize, and I was authentic about it. I don't want to scare or disturb people, and I know I act rather atypical due to my mental health.. but not in a bad way. But even though she accepted the apology, things got slightly better and then just stopped getting better. She gets annoyed when I'm around her, especially if I talk to her.. or try to.. she tends to ignore me when I'm trying to reach out. She won't use the polishing room, which is were I work, if I'm in the building. She seems to think it is 'my space' and like I'm going to yell at her or something, which I've never raised my voice at her at all.
The most recent issue happened on Monday (Dec 2nd), we have to quality check every piece before it goes into polishing. We've been missing our prep person due to emergency surgery for about a month, so its usually left to me to do. I try to save some pieces, using methods that the coworker that has an issue with me has detailed.. but then when I return a piece that wasn't able to be saved.. she said she goes through stages of sanding and polishing. Not one step like I had been told. I said I didn't know and was only doing what seemed to work. Our boss suggested she trains me how to do it and she immediately comes back with that she won't teach me because she doesn't feel comfortable with teaching it, because its just super complicated.
So the pieces I had pulled that didn't pass the quality check, the boss also asked the coworker's opinion. She started to pass things that had defects, so I looked at them again and found the defects that I had failed them for. And when I tried to show her, she said she was extremely uncomfortable and physically ran out of the building. And stayed outside for about 10 minutes.
Which left me and the boss standing there, unsure what just happened and what caused it. Because my boss saw the entire thing, I did nothing that was alarming or otherwise to make her feel uncomfortable. Although it left me feeling like I had done something wrong.
The boss talked with her, I'm guessing.. as I went back to do the polishing.. and then later talked with me. Being unsure how to resolve this, because the environment is supposed to be a team environment. And it always had been. The coworker says that she doesn't want to talk to me to work things out, so I can't get feedback on what I'm doing that bothers her. So the solution for me now is to not interact with her, no confronting, and pretty much just.. not exist.
The coworker ultimately works in all places in the building, so I'm not sure how I'm supposed to avoid her or not cause her to feel uncomfortable. I bring my dog to work, as does my boss, and I'm not sure how to go about even that part because my dog likes hanging around with this said coworker. So wherever my dog is, theres a chance the coworker is nearby.
Sorry that this is a lot to unpack, just hoping someone has some advice..