I have a crazy ex, We have been together on & off for a few years before I finally managed to leave her and call it off for good, that was a couple of years ago.
She recently approached me (via linkedin as I blocked her anywhere else) & let me know that she's still in love with me & wants me back, she did so in a way that made it clear that should I not agree to it she will be "forced" to tell my employer & colleges about the extent of our BDSM based relationship (I was the Dom if it somehow matters for the answer) as "she does not feel comfortable letting other woman hang around me while I continue to have my unmet urges without them knowing" (bad translation from our native language but that's the jist of it), I'm not as worried about her telling my friends as the good ones already know about this side of me nor my family (as my relation with them can't get worse for unrelated reasons).
I have a very good job that I don't want to quit or for them to know about my kinks mentioned above (it will not go well in my area).
Now clearly she's nuts as she actually thinks blackmailing me is a good way for us to get back together (and I'm ashamed to admit is not unexpected from her past behavior) but I'm at a loss as to how to handle it. I can't go back with her but I also don't want anyone at my work to know about this side of me.
Throw away account because my main one might be known at work.