When I entered the professional workforce, I started in Market A for two years at Company X. Within 3 months, I hated it, but I knew I was getting good experience, building my resume, etc. Also, I had excellent performance evaluations and reputation, and it felt nice to be really good at something. Near the end, it became obvious that market A was shrinking, and company X would be with far less work to do. I took it as my cue to jump ship, and accepted my first offer in Market B, from company Y. I did not burn any bridges at Company X beyond them being sad that I was leaving.
I've worked at Company Y for 9 months. I loved it for 6 months, at which point the "shiny" wore off and now I'm miserable. The work is more interesting to me than it was in Market A, but I have so little experience, I struggle constantly, and Company Y has a "sink or swim" mentality. The feedback I get is negative more often than positive, I think I'm sinking. This is a rude shock to me, as I'm a hardworker and (usually) bright enough to figure things out; I'm accustomed to excelling at whatever I put my mind and muscle to.
I contacted a friendly former employee of Company Y, now working at our direct competitor, Company Z, pretty much to have someone unconnected but familiar with the company to commiserate with. Suddenly, I'm being invited to interview with Company Z for a position in both Market A and Market B. Had I known it was an opportunity rather than a shoulder to cry on, I probably would have whined less.
I think it is ok for me to interview and "keep my options open" and see if the position and company would be a better match. Hey, maybe I could even be good at my job again! My gut, however, makes me feel terribly guilty. My boyfriend is adamantly against me even considering switching jobs after the short duration. Given my lackluster performance, I probably haven't earned my keep yet, obviously there is a lot I could still learn in my current position, and the short employment would look bad on future resumes. He also made the point that work generally sucks, that's why they have to pay you to do it, and I'd probably find myself as unhappy at Company Z as I was at both Company X and Y. He thinks my misery is the standard variety shared by most wage-earners. I argue that maybe I just suck at Market B even though I like it, and Company Y might be as grateful to have me off their payroll as I would be to be told, "good job!" again, even if it's back in Market A.
My questions to the crowd are:
- Assuming I conduct myself professionally (not bad-mouth Y and tactfully rephrase what I already said over beer if directly asked, stay mum at work, use my own time and resources) and would consider an offer if it were a good match, is it against professional etiquette to interview?
- How much would I be shooting myself in the foot with a 9 month employment period?
- How do you tell the difference between standard, everybody-has-it work misery and what is worth leaving for? I'm particularly interested in the sage advice from well-seasoned workers with many years of experience under their belt...
- I have made meek attempts in the past, but I think it would be appropriate for me to have a more aggressive talk with my bosses to say, "I'm unhappy, do I suck, if I do suck then please help me improve, if I don't suck please be nicer to me and say 'good job' more often, and BTW let's establish some appropriate workload boundaries so I can actually have a life." Should I do this now, after I interview, or only once I have an offer or rejection letter in hand? Obviously I wouldn't share a rejection letter :-)