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I am in problem. A month before I got job, I was allocated an office. It is a shared office for 3 persons. Everyone is assigned with a table and cupbourd. After a month I changed some setting in office only in my portion, just exchanged my cupboard with table in setting. One of my colleague changed the whole setting in my absence. I asked why? She said "why you didn't ask to me?" Alongwith this she offered me to take her place. I was not agreeing on thes. And she was saying again and again that "would you like to exchange setting with me"? My mind was fully confused and I took decision to change the place with her. Which is I think a big mistake. After exchanging place she threatened me that she will complain against me in a very harsh way if I changed anything again. Now I amon her previous place. Now I am so much worried abou her threatning? Please suggest me what should I do to get my place back because I was threatened for this place. Plus tell me where I did anything wrong in all this according to your point of view?

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    Have you spoken to your boss? – guest Feb 2 '20 at 8:02
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    Why is it important to get your old desk back? Was there something special about it, or something unpleasant about your current one, or is it simply the feeling that she took advantage of you? – Julia Hayward Feb 2 '20 at 9:00
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    @kilis Perhaps English isn't their mother tongue nor the official language of the country they work in. Even so, none of us are entirely aware of OP's circumstances. If they were in an English speaking country, they might be learning the language, which neither their manager nor any of their colleagues have a problem with, so why should we? I find the comment condescending and unhelpful when the OP is obviously very worried. Perhaps English is their first language but due to hire worried they are they are not bothered with the spelling. – Monstar Feb 2 '20 at 15:10
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    Everyone is devoting my question no one is reponding positively. I am asking for guidance which is not provided. – saint joseph Feb 2 '20 at 15:37
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    @Kilisi: This is very condescending and unnessesary. Also, the connection between the OP:s spelling and office work is not clear. – guest Feb 2 '20 at 18:58
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So as I understand it:

  • you moved the furniture around
  • your colleague moved some furniture around, and this seems to have been the point at which conflict started
  • your colleague persuaded you to swap places
  • your colleague now threatens to make trouble for you if you move the furniture again.

And you have two motivations:

  • to get your old place back
  • to avoid further conflict with the colleague

The problem is your two motivations are contradictory. Insisting on a move back or moving stuff again will certainly reignite the conflict, and you already know your boss views your colleague more favourably. This is where it is difficult for us to advise you, as we cannot tell how important these are to you. If being in a different place is just an irritation because you feel your colleague has cheated you, you need to ask if this is really worth the risk of reopening the conflict and dragging your boss into it. At the other extreme, if the new desk is physically problematic for you to the point where it harms your work, you absolutely should raise it. You need to judge that for yourself.

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  • Okay your answer is satisfactory. But now everything has passed. But I don't know why I have feelings of discomfort. I am not happy in this place. It is good, it is in corner. No one can interfare in my work as before I was being disturbed by others. But I am unable to explain my condition. What is this feeling. – saint joseph Feb 3 '20 at 15:14
  • Is it wrong to exchange my place with her? Or the decision taken in conflict is always a regret? – saint joseph Feb 3 '20 at 15:19
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    No, if you're less disturbed in the new spot and your colleague also got what she wanted then it was probably a good decision, even if the circumstances weren't good. I guess part of your unease is that, having seen your colleague make a big deal out of a very minor issue, it's soured the atmosphere in your little office - and you anticipate a repeat. – Julia Hayward Feb 3 '20 at 18:04
  • Okay. But now my boss and other senior person's behavior is changed. They are like they want to avoid me. I felt rudeness in their replies. What should I do now. I am completely stuck in this. I am afraid they will eliminate me from office. – saint joseph Feb 4 '20 at 5:37
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    @saintjoseph Office politics can be quite tricky especially when you are 'new'. I'd suggest you don't take your subjective observations too serious and give you and others a little bit of time until the dust of the previous 'incident' has settled. Try to be friendly and polite as always - but don't let it get to you if one or two of your co-workers are avoiding you.. – iLuvLogix Feb 4 '20 at 15:09

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