My pregnant partner has is currently in her 7th month of pregnancy and due in 10 weeks in the US. In short, she got much more work responsibilities in the last few weeks at her company, exceeding 70h/week with one or zero day off per week, 3-4 weeks in a row. I am the future father and wondering what I can do to support her.
In more details, she is perfectly healthy and good at what she does for work. Due to bad management/planning at her company, she ended up during the last few weeks with the responsibility to carry out a project with hard deadlines (federal regulatory deadlines that cannot budge). Her team below her lacks experience and she has to spend even more time than usual to teach them or fix their output. Her n+1 and n+2 are seemingly worried because that project was recently scrutinized by regulators, and they are consequently expecting more rigor and more work than for typical projects. They are not supporting her in practical ways and the atypical scrutiny related to that specific project adds pressure on everyone.
She otherwise likes her work and has a tendency towards perfectionism, which likely does not help here. She hates her firm and her boss for being put in this situation. She does not see a way out, except carrying the project by continuing with such workloads for 1-2 weeks at least. Her compensation appears also substantially lower than what her current responsibilities entail and her firm would be in significant trouble if she was unavailable because of sickness or delivery in the next few days. (the compensation story is somewhat tangential and irrelevant). The company should have prepared with respect to pregnancy and have someone ready to take on her responsibilities, but that's not the case.
She is otherwise healthy and so is the pregnancy so far. I am worried about stress/burn out, especially due to difficulty to diagnose such things. I am also worried that she would hate herself if something bad happens to her health or the baby's possibly because of her work situation.
To start a conversation, I jokingly suggested during dinner that I would give a call to their HR or her bosses to remind them that she is pregnant and that they are being irresponsible towards her health with their incompetent management. She firmly answered that I should never do that and never contact them on her behalf by email or phone.
I am wondering how to support her so that she finds a way out. I am currently only using soft power to help her (be loving and available for cooking and anything else). I am also wondering about more nuclear options, including actually calling/emailing her HR (against her will), or describing this situation in full during our pregnancy check-up appointment with the doctor in a few days.
Thanks for your suggestions.