I work with a great team of people. I'm the only female, and I'm younger, while the others are middle-aged. We usually get along great, have fun, engage in ridiculous banter, and share a lot of laughs.
But there are some days (like today) where at least one of them isn't in a social mood. When you're around these people for 8 hours every day (and sharing a break room for at least half the day), you want to establish relationships. I'm thrilled that I have, and I really do like these people.
But on some days when the manager barely looks at me and only nods or grunts responses to my attempted small talk, it hurts my feelings.
Some days we will literally chat for an hour about nothing important. Although an introvert, he can be quite engaging when he has things to say. But once in a while, he just keeps to himself.
It's quite uncomfortable for me to share a break room with someone who won't engage in conversation with me. I wish to respect his space, but at the same time, I wish he would offer common courtesy.
I know it isn't personal, but I'm a friendly and engaging person by nature and I just wish that those who aren't could learn that it doesn't take much to establish a connection, and that's important every day - even if its just a small gesture.
Now, I guarantee you that tomorrow will be better; it always is, and then I wonder why I ever thought I had a problem.
But this same thing will happen a couple weeks later. It always does and I'll be back in this mindset...
How can I handle it better when this happens? Why do so many men often do this? How do people not realize how rude they are?
I think the solution is to change my attitude and remain optimistic for a better day tomorrow.
Any suggestions or better ideas?
Just in case I didn't make it clear, I have a good working relationship with this guy and with all the rest of them. We like each other and get along well. We poke fun and banter, which is a good sign of comfort and amiability. That's why it's strange for me on the occasions where he just didn't even care to acknowledge me.
It's not really that I need conversation so much as approval that I'm accepted "today". A smile, a greeting... something that shows connectivity. If I don't get that all day, it affects me. People generally like to feel that they're noticed, that they matter.
I work for a cleaning crew at an energy plant. Our contractor hires each employee full-time but we don't have full-time work to do. That's why there is so much down time. We aren't slackers, either. We work honestly and thoroughly.
Right now I'm hanging with the guys and we're all chilling in the break room on our phones. Each in our own world. And that's ok. But we had some laughs earlier so it balanced out.
I just have a hard time on the days where my greetings aren't acknowledged or there's not much camaraderie at ALL.