I have a great manager. We are two Europeans working for an aggressive, fast paced organisation from the US. He is under great pressure because of his job and internal politics. I am under great pressure because of my job and internal politics. We work well together, but the situation is heavy - by default.
He has been giving me some harsh coaching, and some of it has been the results of other managers taking a shot at him.
I am very stressed and can't rest well, my productivity dropped. My manager is getting more and more direct and aggressive. I like him, but my health is being affected. If I push back on his requests or "coaching", he might think I am not good enough or that I am failing to receive his "coaching". I like my job, my colleagues and my manager, but I don't know how to ease the tension without my manager getting even more stressed or pissed off.
How to help my manager understand I am very stressed (as opposed to just telling him that I am very stressed)?