I had the misfortune to be in a department with an IT Director who even though in public was acting normal behind close doors intentionally he acted in a very inappropriate way, some worse form of bullying.
I had a very bad experience were in one to one meeting, in my company start, I realized he was trying to pass me the message that if I don't act like none of the aforementioned is happening I will face consequences.
Right now I know that I should have left the company the exact moment this happened.
My question is, should I have gone first to the HR? Would it make any difference?
My experience so far is that the HR is only there to serve the bosses, most probably it would make it worse or maybe will try to justify his behavior, arrange a meeting where he would deny everything or even blaming me.
But is an HR Manager in a higher place to tackle this kind of situation? Hierarchy wise as well.
When I joined the company the manager made clear in a call that he asked the HR not to join his team. For a month he dodged me , he gave me no guidance or any kind of important help moreover he was absent for two weeks.
In the first month he arranged a meeting were he said my performance was not suffice and as he said there are other teams to go. All this situation end up in two weeks from there to an argument why is he avoiding helping me or giving me any sort of guidance by always finding excuses and speak in a rude way.
After two weeks from that incident the director called me in his office, which I presume was to talk about our job and tasks maybe. When the talk started he didn't give me any clue what this was all about, and his just asked me, "What is the problem?"
When I tried to understand by saying "I don't understand" he didn't reply, he just said the exact same words only trying me to open the conversation and make me realise what the situation was. When he saw that this conversation ended nowhere, he said if you have any issue you can tell me.
I said, that my manager sometimes speaks in a rude way and immediately he shut me down saying this is part of the job. The point of this conversation was to point that from now on you will do as I say, without arguing.
Meaning, overtimes which I already did, which he toned as a good change and later my vacation which they postpone it. Regardless to say that I was fired in few months, for performance as they said.
The HR never reached me to hear me or question this decision. They hand me over the firing papers along with a declaration that I won't demand anything from them.