I've had a very frustrating issue with an employee of mine. The original issue is discussed at length here.
Here's a quick update: after lots of leaving messages and trying to contact her, my employee finally agreed to return the item. When I received it from her, it clearly was not the item I had ordered online. I'm almost positive she had bought a cheaper item (worth probably $80 instead of the original $920) and put it in the same box. The online store I made the original purchase from refuses to accept it back. Ultimately, I've decided to drop the matter and accept that this is lost money.
TLDR - there was a mistake on my part (accidentally mailing a personal expensive item to my employee); she didn't return it back, which made my daughter angry at me and ruined Christmas.
Now here's the follow-up question. I am writing yearly performance evaluations for my team. With this employee, all I can think of are the negative things she has done this year. I recognize that this is probably because I am still sore and angry from the events of a few weeks ago.
How can I put my personal grievances aside and provide a fair performance review?