I know it has been discussed a lot about reneging offers. This is generally something I’d never do.
However, this time there are some specificities:
premise: I verbally (nothing signed) accepted an offer but received a better one soon after.
gross salary is more than 60% higher (from EUR 50k to 85k). After taxes, I am getting nearly 80% more in my pocket.
the new offer is in my country. On the other hand, the one that I have accepted is abroad and in a country that has particularly strict rules about traveling back and forth (due to covid).
I have only accepted via email after receiving a brief explanation of salary and main benefits. I have never seen the details of the contract. For example; -I have no idea on how long of a notice they need to fire me. -I do not know their policy on the paternity of inventions (very important in my field). -I was verbally told about salary increases within the duration contract but I have nothing written yet.
the hiring process is not finished yet, I have to go through some procedures with the HR (including, hopefully, seeing the formal agreement) and do a background check. As far as they know, I may be a criminal and be ineligible for employment (not the case of course). And in fact, my position is still advertised on their site. On the other hand, however, they already bought a pc for my office.
I am quite competitive in my field and so I am sure they know that I have alternative.
I had quite a hard deadline to accept, after being told the salary.
I want to join the second (new) place. How to handle this professionally?
My idea is to be honest about the higher salary and the chance to work near my family, and offer to donate them funding (they do research) to repay them for the computer they bought.
Would it be professional? Am I risking to put my recommenders in a bad light?
UPDATE: I will be sent the full contract to be signed electronically. So I guess I am not even reneging, since as far as we know I might disagree with its terms (that I only know in part), and nothing can proceed without my signature.