I feel that if habitual thinking of a person is positive, he/she feel more confident and get better result as most of us may know that majority of communication between humans happens in form of body language/non-verbal communication and if we think positive and constructive it gives us sense of confidence and well being, which help us to get support from others. But I am not sure if positive thinking alone is enough for a person to be successful. Could there be a need for negative thinking in some situations?
For example, at performance appraisal meeting with our project manager, if we are asked:
- Tell me your concerns regarding this project
- According to you what is going wrong in this project
- What is the biggest mistake you have done in this project
- Team mates are complaining about you. What is your problems with team mates?
Surely a more negative attitude is required for these? Should we try to guess in advance what we might be asked?
But there is no limit on negative type of questions. If I go on analyzing what negative questions a project manager can ask, it will create a negative pattern of thoughts and perhaps it will be difficult for us to answer. Maybe while thinking about all these negative questions and their solutions we lose our confidence and we feel worried and it will lead to anxiety. I don't know what approach to follow to answer the questions of project manager but full of faith and confidence.
If I am a programmer/senior software engineer/Team lead and developing some application, will only a positive approach be sufficient for me to get best results? If I think the user will only give correct input to my application, will my application do well, or be secure? In this scenario we should have negative style of thinking; does it apply to other parts of my life?