During my final interviews for position A I realized that it is not right for me. Even if they come back with a great offer, it is extremely unlikely that I will be able to work well in that capacity.
I am planning to wait for their offer and then turn it down, giving my reason. They have another opening for a related position B where the same problem would not apply. Early on I discussed both positions with them and although I was more interested in B, I agreed to apply for A on their suggestion. If my rejection changes their mind and they offer me B instead, that would be great, but if they simply accept my rejection that's okay too. The problem is that now I don't know what to say to them next.
- If I reach out to thank them and ask about the offer, it will sound like I'm expecting to take it. In reality it is unlikely (see the caveat above).
- If I say nothing and let them get back first, it will be rude as I will not have thanked them for the interviews. I certainly appreciate the interviews and don't wish to be rude.
- If I withdraw my application at this stage, it seems rude in that I'm not even giving them a chance to make the offer. Since the interviews are done I wouldn't be saving them much time or effort. I'm also concerned that it will exaggerate my problem with position A and offend them.
- If I ask to be reconsidered for position B, it might not be good because earlier I had already agreed to the opposite (albeit with less complete information).
It seems like I have no good options. Is there a tactful way to handle this?